Feeling lost and in despair

Hi. My brave husband died 6 weeks ago after having a bone marrow transplant that was supposed to make him better. He was only 66. I have had treatment for breast cancer this year and have just finished my radiotherapy. We were supposed to both get better and enjoy a wonderful retirement. That has been stolen from me now and I feel lost, angry, and sometimes wonder how I will ever get through this. I feel utter despair and such great pain at his loss. I have to keep going for my family but I don’t know how.


Hello @Kathryn39 ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband and how you are feeling, that is so sad to hear. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

You may find the following Sue Ryder resources helpful:

  • Our Bereavement information pages
  • Our Online Bereavement Support, which includes our free online bereavement counselling which is held via video chat, our Grief Guide which has interactive tools to help you cope with grief, and Grief Coach, where you can receive personalised support via text

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,