Hi, I don’t usually do things like this. But I’m 43 and lost my mum (my best friend) 4th May. I love my mum and the pain of feeling your insides are being torn out of you so hurts. I need her, I need to know she’s OK. I miss her so much. I miss our daily calls about 10 times a day. (No joke) I would see her everyday and we would chat about anything and everything. We did everything together. Coffeeshops, afternoon teas, I cared for medically, every doctors appointment, blood tests, hospital stays, helped her with her medications for 4 years. Honestly she was my beet friend. She went into hospital and told she had multiple cancers and I was told she,had days to a week to days live. We wanted to bring her home but unfortunately she got a chest infection . I stayed with her until her last breath. I kissed her head and told her I loved her so much and she died. I miss her so much. But having two young kids I’m finding it hard to not breakdown. My dad (79) has prostate cancer which is managed but his memory is starting to get really bad. My brother live away so I’m trying to drive my mum, 2 kids half term, dad with memory issues, which I’m struggling repeating hard things to him (understand he can’t do anything about it) whilst trying to plan my mums funeral whilst also changing accounts over to my dad. I honestly feel like I’m sinking. I just want to run away and sit somewhere and cry. I’m sorry for my post. I miss my mum sooooo much. I want my best friend back.
Hello Littlet1982, so verysorry to hear of your moms ( best friend ) passing. I know how deep that pain is when you lose a loved one. I lost my husband10 weeks ago, and it has been very hard on our family. My husband was my best friend. My soul mate, my forever love. Im lost without him. My mom also has dementia, she still does ok, but still have to look after her. This site has been very helpful for me , people here understand what you are going through, we are here to listen and hopefully someone can offer some good advice. Please take care of yourself and may God bless 
Sorry to hear about your mum, I understand your pain, loss, hurt, trauma and everything else.
Glad you have posted in here and found this valuable outlet for grief. Somewhere to share emotions with people who understand.
You have a lot to deal with, kids, funeral and everything else that goes with it, feels like no time for your own grief.
Tough times but you sound strong, even if your not, Grief hits every one different and I can only offer my support on here. Anytime.
The pain of losing my mum is unbearable at points, hard for anyone to understand, except on here.
Reach out on here … don’t be alone
I’m a similar age (42) and also felt like everything was falling to me. The honest and simple answer is other people need to be doing more. Family, friends. As hard as it is, you will have to ask people to do stuff, people are not good at proactively coming forward, but i found they were when i asked them to do something very directly.
Is there any barrier to your brother coming to stay and help?
I would have a go at writing down a big long list of things that need doing, and then would start approaching people for help. It will start to make you feel less overwhelmed.
The worse people can say is no, and in your situation they probably wont.
Again, i don’t know the full picture, whether your kids dad or his family are on the scene?
But everyone needs to step up and help you at this time.