Feeling lost

Losing a parent
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I lost my mum to cancer 4 months ago. At first the initial shock of her passing consumed me, I could barely function and complete daily tasks. As the weeks went by and once the funeral was done and I went back to work, the grief turned into waves, I would have good and bad moments. Since my birthday (just over a month ago) I have felt really low, the waves of grief have stopped coming and going, and I feel as though I’m stuck in a rut of constant grief. It feels like Groundhog Day everyday and like I’m just going through the motions of life. I feel lost and like I don’t know where I’m supposed to be or what I’m meant to be doing. I hate feeling like this.

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Hello @LS27,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling stuck in your grief. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief

  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

You might also want to have a look at our Losing a parent article Losing a parent - coping with the death of a parent | Sue Ryder

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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I lost my Mum to Alzheimer’s in April this year, I was her main carer for a long time. I know exactly what you mean. I threw myself at as many activities as I could manage and thought I was coping, but four months on the grief feels neverending. I’m still looking for ways to get through it. Just wanted to offer some solidarity, you’re not alone, somehow we will find our ways through x

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