It’s been over 12 months since I lost my partner of 15 years , I still get upset every day , I feel exhausted, is this still normal
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@Debbie3 When it comes to grief I’m not sure there is a normal! It’s 6 months for me and I still feel like I’m living someone else’s life! J x
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There is no normal, we all deal with everything there best we can. I’m 8 months in and still v cry and will probably continue to for a while yet but doesn’t mean to say I don’t have a life and get on every day. Its just different,
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Me too thank you for your reply nothing will ever be the same , just feel like I aim to get everyday out of the way as quick as I can to go back sleep and hope I feel better the next day , but it doesn’t 
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Hi sorry for your lost, I to have just lost my husband 7 weeks ago, don’t know what is normal now, just getting up in the morning is hard the days seem long, nobody to talk to I cry all of the time, hope its get better over time,
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@Lolly sorry for your loss too! I find taking on here really helpful! Don’t feel quite so alone. J x
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Hi jax2 thanks for the message, totally agree with you, you are not alone on this site, its nice to be heard and talk about how you feel after the loss of a loved one,
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Yeh you almost feel like an imposter dont you ? I dont even recognise myself half the time ? It somehow makes you lose your identity doesnt it ? In some ways its made me more assertive ( because you have to be !) But in other ways ive lost so much confidence and hate this living alone lark !! X
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It is living a different world , just take one day at a time and that’s all you can do and not put to much pressure on yourself , hope the sadness one day is more manageable than it is at the moment 
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Yes this living alone lark is definitely sh**! I do feel like if I don’t do it then no one will so I get the assertive bit although I was going to go to the garden centre this afternoon but just can’t bring myself to do it! J x
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I’m lucky I do have my little boy to keep me going I just feel guilty and hope he doesn’t look at me and see the sadness inside , I try hide it the best I can, I try do nice things with him for his Dad , it’s really hard x
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@Debbie3 Having your little boy gives you the best reason for keeping going! You will have a special bond I’m sure. J x
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I go out for an hour each day, either walking or local town just to get out of the house otherwise i would go mad. I have my little dog at home but i just need to feel normal for an hour. I hate the dark nights alone.
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Keeping busy is the key, it’s so hard in the evenings , I appreciate everyone replies , I know I’m not alone but don’t think people understand sometimes so this has helped speaking to people who are feeling the same , thankyou so much it’s helped me today
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