I lost my husband Martin last November, and the denial is waring off, and the reality of losing him is setting in, we had such a unique bond (I guess everyone feels like that!) But nevertheless, I’m missing his presence, and the reassurance (I suffer with depression) he gave me, his gentle smile, and the way he would always make me laugh when I would get in a flap about some trivial thing. Not sure how I can cope without him
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It’s overwhelming .Grief has so many layers,it’s like trying to accept the unacceptable & deal with things both practical & emotional we don’t want to.It’s comforting that the love remains & always will.They are still a huge part of us because their imprint on our lives is massive.I take comfort from that.Coping without them is the hardest thing but we keep them alive in our memories.
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I’m so sorry for your loss.
We all feel the same in our own ways I’m sure.
It will be 2 years in June when my husband died and I still can’t believe he’s not here anymore.
We are grieving so badly because we are still in love with our husbands. We can’t just switch our love off when they die.
You’re in my thoughts xx
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@Chrizzy hi Chrizzy I am so sorry for your loss and the heartbreak you are going through. I lost my soulmate pauline last April. I also suffer with depression, ocd and bpd. My partner used to reassure me a lot and was the only one who could reach me and pull me out of a lot of dark times. It will be a year for me next month and I don’t know how I’m still here. But somehow we keep going for our lost loves and those we love. Our soulmates love is always with us and we do carry them with us. You will find support here from people who understand your pain. Take care and be kind to yourself. Sending hugs x
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That is so true we knew there faults and loved them still. We all wish they were still here with all there little ways. It’s very hard to move on without them but we do as need to keep going.
My dear husband of 52years died 8 months ago and although I miss him everyday I am trying to build a new life. This doesn’t mean I’m over him I never will be I just keep going for my family as we all miss him so much. 
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