Thankyou so much @LynT your words are so hopeful. I have to get myself out of this downward spiral. I want to, I can’t carry on like this. I know its not going to be easy and I’ve got a way to go, but hopefully in a few months time I will be able to post that I am getting out of the abyss and am starting on the way up. I hope we all can with each others support
Love and hugs
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Hi Cab - I hear you and understand how you feel. Believe you me. At the moment please find friendly people to be with. If you are by yourself, get plugged in to a book, watch rubbish on television. But try and give yourself a break from yourself!
I’m looking at doing EFT. Look it up, I’m thinking it might help. Ping me if you get desperate. I have been where you are. My husband, the man of my dreams died 6 months ago. X
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I feel the same way. I want my life to end soon.
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I hear you and understand your feelings.
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I know how you feel, but please dont give up. We’re all here to listen. We do understand and we’re here for each other
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Well said. We are all here and will continue to be so… it’s pure hell on earth. But it’s a sink or swim situation. And I’m a swimmer … on good days… !
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Well I never was much of a swimmer, but I’m paddling furiously!!
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Excellent - we all can lend each other arm bands X
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We’re certainly holding each other up
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I try to stay positive for the family I still have alive,that’s why I’m studying and planning to start my own business but I don’t feel it gets easier,I agree everyone’s different and we need to try and get through each day,I try to laugh about anything,I truly feel my son would want me to be happy because he was always happy but sometimes it just wears you down
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You may not feel like it now but I’m sure somewhere down the road you will feel like you can go on and there is a future for you 
You are absolutely right!
I should have phrased that better.
Before joining this site, I knew very few
i feel exactly the same and although i try to keep busy and have a lot of friends I still feel devastated and lonely even after nearly two years since my husband died. without my other half and soulmate, there is no one to share life with and it all seems so pointless.
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I gets more intense in time doesn’t it rather than better. In some ways I want to hold on to those feelings as never want the memories to fade x
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Hi @Unforgettable I’m so sorry that you feel the way you do. But it’s so hard carrying on without your life partner. I can totally relate as I feel the same. It is just over two years for me and what you have said I could have written those words. Sending you a hug.x
You are so right, it gets worse not better. I’m in a very bad way now and without hope. Take care. X
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Please don’t be without hope - it does get more intense, but it’s the price paid for true love. Things do change - keep doing the small things that get you through xx
I completely understand. Will be two years for me at the end of August.
Since this year started 2024 everything has been even harder.
It is the intenseness of it. And alongside that everyone else falling away…
I miss my husband more and more , and I think that’s simply because I’ve missed him longer… He’s missed more of my life … I just want him back so very much…
Love hugs and strength to you , and everyone on here.
Thank goodness we all ‘get each other’
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I can so relate to how you are feeling. It’s almost 4 years since I lost my husband and the grief is just intensifying. I can’t endure much longer. X
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thank you for your reply. its the feeling lonely all the time with no one to cook for or share thoughts and experiences with that is so painful. It will .be our wedding anniversary on 6th June and I shall be so so sad alone.
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