The past week I’ve been feeling completely flat & today I just feel totally empty.
I thought I was doing ok & having some days where I was able to do productive things.
It’s been almost 7 weeks since my husband died.
I saw my GP yesterday who has diagnosed PTSD given the trauma of having to do CPR & the whole horror of that morning.
They’ve prescribed Sertraline but I’m scared of taking them! My anxiety is off the charts yet I’m anxious about taking the medication that should help!! I’m trying to wean myself off Tramadol (taken for some years due to pain issues) now as it’s not good to take both together.
I feel as if I cannot make any clear decisions without fear.
Anyone else experienced this?
Any advice is always greatly appreciated
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@Nicenursenic Yes I’ve experienced that fear, the indecision, lack of clarity. It was especially strong when I was at your stage, you have so much to deal with at the moment it must be overwhelming. And now you have to make a decision about medication, here I have no experience. But if it was me I’d be inclined to take the doctors advice, it may be the break that you’re looking for and will allow you to process things a bit better. I’m sorry but I can’t really give any advice other than that, you will know if it’s right for you. With the indecision I was really afraid of making the wrong choice, adding to my problems, but from where I am now I can see that choices can be made and reviewed, they’re not final.
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Yes i also experience this aftr losing my wife 10 months ago also gave cpr thought I was doing okay but no chance
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I think you are expecting too much from yourself. 7 weeks is no time at all. Decision making was non existent for me and I relied very heavily on others. Even now making decisions is difficult as like @Walan it’s the fear of whether I am making the right decision. Not having my partner to decide with me is hard.
I have bad brain fog and memory also. My partners friend witnessed the death of my partner and gave CPR and he struggles with flash backs and anxiety from that but it is getting easier.
Medication has to be your call. Having been on tramadol for a sustained period, I had no effects coming off it. Anxiety, if you think they will help, may be they are worth a try but they come with there own set of side effects and it could take a while to find the right one. If it was me I’d wait a bit. There is no quick fix in this situation.
What are can definitely say is 7 weeks is no time at all, your body will still be in shock and flooding you with hormones to help you cope. Be kind to yourself, there’s no rush x
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Hi i can fully understand where you are coming from. I lost my husband suddenly 20 months ago, my son did cpr but he had gone. For a few months i was just existing not living then i felt things were starting to get a bit better and started to sort things out, but now 20 months on I’m not coping as well as i thought i was. Some days i get up full of good intentions then look around me and feel overwhelmed. He used to look after the garden really well, but just now its like a jungle, what little i do makes no difference. So i just sit there thinking why bother. Hope one day i can get to grips with my life and move forward
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I am just coming up ton11 weeks. Most days I think why bother. I get the washing done. And keep the house tidy but I need to store a lot of things from our spare bedroom. My brother has brought my some dvd he thinks I would like. He didn’t know we have 193 of them but they are different so I will watch them. Then it is something else I will have to find a storage space for. It was nice having a home cooked meal with him and his wife.
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If it wasnt for my little dog some days i wouldnt even get out of bed. I feel so down sometime, we had been married 52 years and i had known him since i was 16. I have 4 children but they all have their own lives to live, i know they miss him dearly but their loss is not the same as mine.
I had bought him a couple of CDs that was part of his christmas present but unfortunately he passed away before he could see them. I havent been able to play them yet. Maybe one day, i know it will upset me but hopefully i will feel some comfort
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