First Mother’s Day after losing my Beautiful Mum

Coping with bereavement
#1

I’m Kay in bed with my own thoughts night after night and it’s not getting easier - I thought it would?
I lost my Mum 25/11/2022 - it’s been 3 months and a week or so and I just can’t deal with Mother’s Day.
I’ve a husband and 4 beautiful kids so why am I feeling like the only person I need is my Mum? :cry::cry::cry:
Does the pain get any easier? I just want to hide under the duvet and stay there forever - I just need my Mum :sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob:

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#2

I feel you it’s the first Mother’s Day without my nan , I lost my nan June last year & it just doesn’t feel the same it’s like something s being ripped from my heart , me & my mum usually go see my nan the day before Mother’s Day to celebrate but couldn’t this year so spent it at her grave, I don’t think it get much better we just learn how to cope , sending some love & prayers to you

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#3

Well i sort of survived yesterday but woke hhis morning with a heavy heart and sadness. My mum died just over a week ago. I’ve been mostly numb but have cried every day. My grief is shifting and the reality of her loss is beginning to reveal itself to me. Im frightened and lost without her. She was my constant and my safety net.

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#4

So sorry for your losses. I lost my mum suddenly at the end of December and yesterday was a tough one. I don’t feel like it’s getting any easier and I am just getting through each day as it just feels like a struggle constantly. My son is the one who is keeping me going. We didn’t do mothers day yesterday and he just hugged me in the morning and said I know your missing nana, he does to as was a nanas boy and we miss her every day.
Hugs to you all.
Valda :sparkling_heart:

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#5

This was my first mother’s without my mum, it was hard at work the day before, people coming in to buy there flowers (I work in retail), i went to my mums grave the day before, left a card and a plant, l felt very short tempered on the day, i thought i would be ok, in a couple of weeks it’s the anniversary of her getting her wings, a other first, just when i think I am copping ok, something comes along that upsets me,

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#6

Sorry for your loss hugs , it’s coming up from my nans 1st anniversary too she died two weeks before my 40th birthday I didnt celebrate it last year & wont be this year just another reminder that she’s not here, this time last year I was going back & forth every so often to visit her in the care home & hospital & trying to sort out my nans care now there’s just nothing :disappointed:

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#7

Yes my mum passed after my birthday and just 3 days before her granddaughters who she was very close to , i get the running around back and forwards to her care home and then after they have gone, you just stop, sending hugs

#8

You just feel at a lost when their gone , I was close to my nan I was the one who saw her all the time from the moment she was taken into hospital I spent every day at the hospital where she was suddenly diagnosed with dementia then she was sent to a care home miles away so visiting wasn’t to often but when she ended up at hospital there I made sure I got on the first train there to check on her every time & made sure the doctors/nurses were treating her well she even caught covid from the care home even tho she was bed bound, she died within 4 months from the day she was diagnosed & died alone as we didn’t get there in time as she was miles away :disappointed: we’ve already had her first birthday, first Xmas now first Mother’s Day without her , I knew she’d be gone one day but I’d thought we have a few more years yet :disappointed:

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#9

That is heartbreaking that you couldn’t be with her, my daughter, brother and my self were able to be with our mum/ nanny, sending hugs

#10

Thanks, we was half way down the road in the cab when the doctor rang to say she had gone, so we got there after she had gone :disappointed: , my mum & aunt didn’t know what we had to do etc so it was left to me to get the death certificate, funeral service, nans bank etc , she wasn’t treated properly at the care home that’s why she ended up in the hospital 3 times with chest infections :disappointed:

#11

Oh that’s horrible about care home, the one my mum was in were brilliant, it is a lot to deal with organising furneals, and you do hit the ground running with that, sending hugs

#12

Thanks , just waiting for the headstone to be put back on the grave , looks so bare at the moment it’s a unmarked grave part from the flowers & vases & cards on it :disappointed: