Is it normal when you go to a friend’s house who is helping you through grief not to talk to each other just sit and watch TV when I go there first I can find things to talk about but then the conversation dries up has this grieving change me
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Hello @Sandypaws022,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
Take good care,
Alex
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Hello. In normal circumstances in my opinion, I would say a bit of chat and watching telly together is normal. However, you are suffering the loss of a loved one and I feel your grief, which is natural, is making you feel the way you do. Best wishes. Stephen.
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It ia so hard that moat don’t know what to say. Nothing is normal..as much as we tey
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I think its very normal - in the early days of grief i found myself avoiding friends because the weight of carrying my grief was exhausting, so I was at full capacity - i had no spare mental capacity to ask how my friends were doing or make small talk. Maybe just explain this to your friend if this is how you’re feeling? If he/she is a good friend they may already realise this, and watching TV together is a good way of just being together, without the pressure of making conversation. 
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Plus losing someone can turn our whole world upside down and changes our perspective/priorities in life - chatting about the small things can suddenly feel meaningless and unimportant when dealing with something as life changing as loss
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