Frightened Of the funeral

Like you all know I’m heartbroken for Losing my husband. We’ve arranged a lovely funeral but I’m frightened I would be able to control myself at the funeral and saying the final goodbye

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I felt the same but somehow you get through can’t remember a lot of it I felt numb stay strong you will do it hugs annie x

Yes it will be a very challenging day but you must do it.I cried all through the service and was unable to say what I wanted to say so the vicar did it for me. Michael x

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So sorry for your loss there are no rules get through the best way you can don’t have to control yourself your grief is so painful I don’t remember much about my husbands in jan you seem to just go through it I’m sure my husband was holding me up as m sure yours will too sending you strength x

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I was dreading my mums funeral but surprised myself by how strong i was . Thinking of you x

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You will be amazed at your strength. You get through it in a haze.
I can’t even remember who came to my husband’s funeral. Yet I managed to do the ulogy myself and recited a poem I wrote for him .I never broke down once. It is after the reality sinks in that the pain begins. Slowly, slowly you begin to bear it. It is the hardest journey of my life. Xx

Really sorry for your loss, the worse thing you can do is hold anything back, however you react will be natural and hopefully you have a lot of people around you because that will help :heart:

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Hi yes if it were not for some good friends I do not know what I would have done when the panic attacks come.This grief is like nothing before,it drains the life out of you,leaves you unable to eat or sleep.This is the price we pay for loving someone so much and when we lose them it destroys us.Cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel because I cannot even see the tunnel . So unhappy,so sad so lonely. Michael x

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Feel for you Michael as you have just described my life , if we can call it a life ? More of an existence . The panic attacks and anxiety are awful to deal with but somehow i get through it . Thinking of you x

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Hi Angie,yes it is just an existence ,not living,drift through each day try to eat try to sleep,what a living hell this is.We are all on the same journey and it is a nightmare journey.The dark winter nights do not help now do they.This storm coming will make it even worse.Hate this life want to be with Judith where ever she is.Much love to you Angie Michael x

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Hi Michael . I have felt since the dark night’s , didn’t think it would be possible to feel worse but i do . Where i live the storm has already passed through and now we have sunshine . How wonderful it would be to be with our loved ones again . Take care x

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Hi Angie ,I am having a bad day today,my sick feeling has come back,my heart is pounding in my chest,my step daughter went to see a friend in the next road but did not bother to come and see me.Gutted . Much love Michael x

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Hi Michael , sorry to hear you are having a bad day . Yesterday was a really bad day for me but feeling a little brighter now after speaking to my counselor this morning . How awful that your step daughter didn’t pop round and visit you too , even just a quick visit would have brightened your day a little. You take care xx

Hi, I’m sorry for your loss. The best advice I can give, is to just let it happen however it’s gonna unfold. It’ll be a difficult day I’m sure, but by allowing your emotions to just respond to the moments as they happen, should enable you to get through it. I cried and laughed at my partner’s funeral, as we all reminisced about times we’d spent with him. It was a rollacoaster of emotions but somehow I managed to get through it. As long as you have people there to support you, you should hopefully be ok. Take care

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