I am thinking of going away for our first Christmas . Has anybody else done the same after losing their soulmate
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Yes I have but my family feel differently to me going in that I would be with strangers at Christmas and should be with family? It’s a hard one as our reactions are to get away/run away. A widow friend did a cruise straight after new year and loved it. Best wishes whatever you decide.
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I see I am not the only one up at this silly hour. Do whatever you feel us right for you. I can’t even think about Xmas. I couldn’t get away even if I wanted to as without my live I am virtually housebound.
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I have been thinking the same, the thought of waking up Christmas morning & hes not next to me in bed knocks me sick to my stomach. I just dont know what to do either.
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I’ve had the same thoughts about going away but I think I’ll stay and face it. Otherwise it’ll be harder next year and I can’t keep running away from it.
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I cant imagine trying to have a traditional Xmas day, with all the trimmings, presents, booze etc etc. As my niece told me, no matter where I go, Penny won’t be there. So I’ll be happier on my own. Hopefully, I’ll be chatting with friends and family over the internet.
If the weather is nice, I’ll pack a lunch, decorate the dogs with flashing lights, and disappear to a nice beauty spot and play my guitar to her picture.
I would have been on top of Flamborough cliffs last year, but caught covid on Xmas eve.
I’ll be doing exactly what I want, trying not to do what my close friends and family think I ought to do.
No presents, no cards, just kind thoughts.
My dogs, however, will get Xmas treats
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The only problem for my dogs is that they won’t be getting turkey giblets, unless I beg them off my neighbours.
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No but its a good idea ! Im dreading it tbh … my husband passed 8 days before xmas … my daughter wants us to go abroad end of november though … even that will be a break … x
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None of our family ever got together with us at all . My nephew has invited us now but he has been very insensitive to my sons grief
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No neither do my family really either … i think theres been a massive disintegration of families tbh … i think it started in covid … and has continued … i dunno if i will even see anyone on xmas day ? Im not holding my breath … last year got invited out a few places but really couldn’t face seeing anyone 8 days after i had lost my husband 
xx
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My family all do their own thing you see . My nephew is going to invite us but my son won’t go because my nephew has been insensitive to his grief . I am going to decide this week as they are selling out
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@Jol I’m not going away from Christmas I’m going to spend it with my son and his family. We are usually together at either our house or theirs anyway. However, I have booked a holiday for New Year. Not sure I’ve done the right thing. Only time will tell!! J x
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Lost my wonderful hubby on April 7th only 26 days after his diagnosis he had been seemingly fit and healthy. My youngest son flew off to Australia only 5 days after his Dad’s funeral. Christmas looming which is always a family get together, my eldest son wanted Christmas at home which is what his Dad would have wanted, I am dreading my first Christmas without my amazing hubby and decided to throw myself into planning and organising Christmas for my immediate and extended family….catering and accommodating 15 people from teenagers to my 89 year old Mum hoping this will get me through my first Christmas without my soulmate.
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I am dreading my first Christmas. I will be alone. I may well be the only person in my cul de sac. I expect I will spend the day crying.
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I am going away for Christmas with my mum.
Me & hubby went away every single Christmas as his birthday was Boxing Day.
Usually Las Vegas but the last few years, we’ve done Lisbon & Porto.
Sofia was booked this year😢
So because mum doesn’t do cold weather, we are going to Gran Canaria on Christmas Eve
Will I enjoy it? Who knows🤷🏼♀️
I don’t want to do anything ‘Christmassy’ to be honest. Not even sure I’ll put the tree up & I absolutely LOVED Christmas.
Cruel world & cruel club we find ourselves in!
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That is where I am looking to go too
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Normally all the houses in our cul de sac are covered in lights. If my house has lights someone will have to put them up for me. I might just be able to put out our reindeer. Don’t know about the new neighbours but they seem the type. Internally no decorations or tree. I don’t think I could stand it. I don’t think I will even display cards. A few years ago we would spend Christmas in Florida. They really do go for it. It will be expensive anyway as it will be time and a half for my care. Not that I don’t think they are worth every penny. Xx
We are going to Costa Mogan all inclusive with Jet2
Price was really good as we are there Christmas & New year.
I’ll take anywhere other than being stuck at home although I will miss my furkids.
But as we went away every Christmas, I’m used to that.
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One thing im definately doing is putting up the xmas tree my husband saw last year. ! He loved xmas and it was his last wish to be at home for xmas … but he didnt make it to xmas day ! My poor little darling … god a whole year would’ve gone by then and in that time i have done so very little with my life apart from cry !! Xx
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I am going to maspalonas 23 for a week with my son I think it’s a good thing to do
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