Maybe as we have and are going through the worse thing that could ever happen to us, life going forward couldn’t be any worse!!!
And death when it comes will not be something to be scared of as it could be our time to be with them again, who knows!
Guess I am saying life can’t get any worse! So going forward we have nothing to fear!
Hello, there’s a lot to fear. Life is hard and cruel at times. Haven’t you noticed that bad things happen to good people.
Dear Absent
I agree, nothing could be worse. I’m also no longer scared by death as I used to be. In a way I’m looking forward to it, I’ll be with my wonderful husband and if by some chance I’m not I won’t be disappointed. Win win x
Hi Absent, the problem is living a long time.
All the best
Tom
Yes that’s true. I’m 55 and can’t imagine another maybe 20 years of this life, without my lovely soulmate
How I wish I could agree with you I lost my husband Feb 19 2020 not to the cancer he was fighting for 3 years he was killed in a car accident 1.2 miles from our home .I truly thought that crushed my world until. Oct 17,2023 on the same rd 4 miles from my husband my 34 yr old daughter was killed . My first born my mirical child they said I couldn’t have .i was called to the scene since it was so close to our home stood there for 3 hours until they could finally remove her from the trail blazer . The day my husband was killed i truly thought my night mare was never going to end , I was right
Dear Lost
I am sat here trying to write a reply to your post and really can’t think of anything to say that comes anywhere close to saying how sorry I am that you’ve lost both your loved ones so tragically.
There are some amazing people in this group that I’m sure will be along to offer words of advice and support. Please keep posting, this group has helped me remain sane since the loss of my husband.
Take care, Helen x
So so sorry!
Yes I now left with no words!
I was trying to give us some light.
I can only say sorry if I upset you x
TBH nor can I but trying to find a route forward! 
Yes diffinately had same thoughts, sorry if I offended or upset you.
Just trying to grasp some way forward.
Yes people look horrified when I say bring it on, blessed release
Yup!
That’s what scares me the most….. I can go on like this for a few months but I can’t see myself years from now still without my husband.
I am trying NOT to think forward and though soooo flipping hard just stay in present as shit as it is as present. Can’t change the past or know for diffinate what the future holds! So I am just doing my best to be in this moment, this soace of time!
Yup! They think am looney tunes and that everybody gets over bereavement eventually. Typically it goes like this “Don’t say that! Am sure your husband would want you to keep on going” – I reply “I’m sure he wouldn’t want to see me suffering like I am right now”
That’s me, too. It seems so endless and unrelenting. And, to look at years ahead can be overwhelming to say the least.
Anita I si dislike when they say that or say He’s in a much better place now !
Really? How do they know!
His better place would be with me iur grandchildren having adventures together with them .
If he wanted death he never would had battle the cancer so hard !
I just miss him , I miss talking in bed at night . Walking along the beach holding his hand .
yes exactly. I just miss him!! I want to be with him! Why should we contemplate years and years of loneliness and accept that as “normal”?
You are right it’s not fair at all !
Being married is not easy even in the best of marriages. . Yet we are expected to just move on after years of making our relationship work .
I even miss our arguments those who don’t understand i feel bad for I wish they were in our shoes then say something stupid like he’s in a better place
I feel bad thinking that. When in my heart I really don’t want that .
I just want the pain the physical pain to stop at the least lighten up
You haven’t upset me .