Is it just me or do others feel that they are just going through the motions to get through the day. I get up, get washed and dressed and do whatever household chores I have to do. But it all seems so pointless now as there’s only me so does it really matter if I don’t hoover or dust?
And as for cooking, I find I can’t be bothered making myself a proper meal as it’s too much effort to cook for just one.
I suppose trying to do chores at least provides a distraction from the sadness and the loneliness. When will it ever end? Or at least get a little easier to cope. I miss my mum so much it’s a physical pain, but if I distract myself I feel guilty because I’m not thinking about her and I don’t want to leave her behind. What can I do to cope? Does anyone have any advice?
I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
Hi again. I lived with my dad and it has been the same for me. I still eat ready-made meals, because I can’t be bothered to cook. It just isn’t the same. Going through the motions is what we all do, I think, more or less anyway, so there’s nothing strange about that.
I cope with the quiet by having both the radio and the TV on. The first months I divided the day into parts and only focused on getting through one part at a time. Don’t try to imagine the future, it doesn’t exist yet.
I wish I could tell you a specific time when it will get easier. But it’s so different for everyone. Even here on the forum some find their feet fairly quickly and others struggle for longer. It can help to talk to a grief counsellor and I know many find comfort in attending grief groups. It is hard for us who are alone, so it can be good to meet others who understand in real life as well as online.
Hi Ulma. Thank you for your lovely reply. It does help to know that there are others in a similar situation and finding out how they are coping does help. I will try to take it one step at a time just to get through the day.
But it’s so different for everyone. Even here on the forum some find their feet fairly quickly and others struggle for longer. It can help to talk to a grief counsellor and I know many find comfort in attending grief groups. It is hard for us who are alone, so it can be good to meet others who understand in real life as well as online.