I wondered how to tackle my feeling of grief. I just feel so ridiculous. My Mum was so incredibly though and over came so much in her life. I feel like I’m letting her down by being so overwhelmed with grief. I have such a heaven heart no energy and unable to go back to work. I know there’s no miracle cure but there’s got to be something so I can move on.
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Hello @Ruth24,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Patience is key. Be kind to yourself. Accept your feelings as they come; don’t fight them. It’s because you have so much love for your mum that you feel the way you do.
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Thank you Xx
Im sorry for your loss Ruth. Please dont feel ridiculous - your brain and body needs time to process the loss of your Mum, so what you are experiencing is normal. Ive read that grief is love with nowhere to go, which makes sense to me - when i think of mum all the love i have for her wells up, followed by a huge wave of pain/sorrow because all that love has nowhere to go. Talking to others, either friends/family, bereavement support services or posting on here will certainly help you to work through your emotions but as you say, there is no miracle cure. When you do feel ready to talk to your employer, consider whether a phased return might be helpful to ease you back in, if they are willing to offer that. 
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Hi, my mum passed away 9 weeks ago , I’m still not feeling that good in myself , I put on a brave face when I’m up and around , but deep inside I’m still hurting , it’s still early days