I subscribe to an online grief community, and I get regular supportive emails. I just wanted to share this week’s message as it really struck a chord with me, so maybe it will bring comfort to someone else too 
“Grief often lives in quiet, invisible places — the thoughts you don’t share, the tears no one sees, the way you keep going while carrying so much.
If you’ve been giving your grief attention, reflection, or even just space to exist, that matters.
It’s not easy to turn toward pain instead of away from it. And yet, here you are — in whatever way you’re showing up — making room for what’s real.
There’s no reward for doing this “well,” no gold stars for healing. But what you’re doing - feeling your way forward with honesty - deserves to be acknowledged.
So if no one has said this lately:
It’s courageous to feel.
It’s meaningful to grieve.
And it’s deeply human to not have it all figured out.”
Credit: David Kessler, Tender Hearts
Sending much love today 
It really isn’t fair. I’m so sorry to hear you’re both having to deal with such difficulties. Much love to you, many hugs and hopes for better days.