Grief

Losing a parent
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I lost my dad two years ago next month. Its been so hard. That feeling of complete safety love just gone. I feel so empty and so lost. I thought i was getting better and managing but not health anxiety has came into play and im just not coping anymore. I need help :frowning:

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Hello @Bubbles17,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

Health anxiety can be really debilitating. Are you getting any support with this? If not, it might be worth making an appointment with your GP. You don’t have to go through this alone. Other members have talked about experiencing health anxiety after being bereaved. You might want to read some of their conversations here.

You may also wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief

  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,
Seaneen

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Hi there yes i contacted my GP and im on a waiting list with a counsellor. I do not want to go on any medication as I want to get better on my own terms.

I will check out the links.
I have tight shoulders atm which has caused nerve damage as i get numbness now on my left arm. Its very frustrating and scary.

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I’m so sorry to hear this. Losing your Dad is always completely horrible. I am sure though that your lovely Dad would want you to look after yourself and be kind to yourself. I hope you can look at getting as much external support as you can and maybe even treating yourself to a soothing massage, a trip to the sauna for your muscles or whatever can at least bring some physical comfort. I am thinking of you and sending lots of love and strength

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Bubbles, So sorry to hear of your loss. I don’t if this will help, but it helps me from time to time.

Is there something you and your dad did or go to that made happy memories. It may even be a song. try to revisit something and remember the good times, for me, my wife used to test her new nail varnishes on me! so when I started sorting her things out I found them all, don’t ask why, but I painted my nails, each a different colour. And that made me giggle. It still makes me smile.

But have you a friend you can just talk to, I found one, use social media. It does help.

You have taken a huge step forward by writing on here. Hang on in there please,

I have anxiety attacks even with medication.