Hi,
I am here looking for ways to cope with the deaths of my mother and brother who passed away within months of each other. I want to know what others do to help with their grieving process.
Eve
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Hi Eve, I don’t know how old you are but I am much older I imagine. When my wife died on Christmas day after 2years of cancer treatments, I took all the pain I was feeling out on my body. I would lift weights, do pull ups when I started crying. The rest of the day I spent walking to tire myself out. If you are able to it’s a great way to help with the pain as you are reducing the cortisol that is being produced by the anxiety you feel and by tiring the body sleep is much better. It also helps as you are taking control of your bereavement rather than it taking control of you.
Being able to talk about how you feel is also essential and posting on this site is great because everyone understands the pain you are going through.
When my wife’s mother died she found it very helpful to have counselling and after trying a couple of therapists she found one who helped her with her bereavement.
I think it is also important to concentrate on the positives. Rather than thinking about my wife dying seven years before our retirement, missing out on the fun we were going to have when we retired. I prefer to think of how lucky I was to have met, loved and been loved by such a lovely woman.
Wishing you all the best
Tom
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Alright thank you Tom. I will definitely try these activities. I am working on finding ways to talk out my pain. I thank you for sharing your thoughts.
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