I hope I’m going this right I’ve not been on for quite some tone. I lost my mum almost 8 years ago to COPD. I had and still have anxiety because of it, it’s not left me. Still don’t feel like I’ve grieved for her? Hardly ever cry about her even tho I miss her so bad. I actually feel like a psychopath that has no feeling ?

Hello @Chelly-99, I’m so sorry to hear about your Mum.

We have some useful resources on our website, including this article which I thought you might find insightful, even if it simply reassures you that how you are feeling is perfectly normal.

Sue Ryder also offers a free bereavement counselling service that could be helpful for you. There is currently a waiting list, but if you would like to find out more, you can do so here.

Keep reaching out and please know that we’re here for you.

Take care,


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Hello chelly-99

I think we all deal with grief in different ways and I’m sure we have all questioned whether we are feeling the right emotions when dealing with a loss. I would say there is a chance that you don’t allow yourself to cry as a way of protecting yourself from the pain you have to bare.
I know I have shut down many thoughts of my husband when I feel overwhelmed or panicked that I am losing a grip on my emotions.

Take care xx

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