My mum died in July 2024.We were not close and it left feelings i needed to deal with.My dad went downhill and i moved into his room and slept in a chair for 6 nights before he died too.14 weeks to the day after my mum.I was so very close to my dad and am heartbroken he’s gone.My children are all grown and i couldn’t face Christmas at home.I told my partner and he booked us a week in Tenerife. The 2 days before Christmas he was fine.Christmas morning he was fine.Then on a flip of a coin he was off on one.Not happy to hang around the apartment. It’s Christmas. It’s my holiday too.I can’t go to the pool on my own I’ll look like a paedophile. I haven’t eaten for 5 hours.Etc,etc.I spent most of the day in the befroom weeping.Christmas day my dad had been dead just 8 weeks.His funeral a month before.Its been 12 days and im still really,really upset and can’t seem to get over it.
Hello @Maximo63 ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling heartbroken and that your Christmas was very difficult. I’m so sorry to hear about your parents. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
I am so sorry for your loss. It is hard when you lose one parent, let alone two. It takes time to adjust, I am still trying so hard to do so too and it is almost 4 months since I lost my mum, my other half. You need to give yourself time, I am sorry your partner is not able to see or understand your pain, do they still have both their parents? I find that unless it has happened to you, no one can truely understand. Here you can vent, write down everything you are feeling and there will be others who can understand so much better.