My husband who is 24, lost his dad suddenly last year to a heart attack. His dad was only 46. We’ve had a hectic year, trying to cope with his death, we got married not long after he died and have been doing our house up over the last year. Weve always talked about his dad, pics around the house etc. I know my husband has been in denial when asked how he’s doing by others, he always responds “I’m ok” and that’s about it so I’ve always encouraged him to talk. Recently it came to a head. The anger overflowed and he took it out on me, I’m a big girl and I can take it but it’s totally out of character for him to be like that. In anger, he wanted a divorce and was tearing my character apart. I sat there and took it partly shocked this was happening but also felt he needed to release the pain. After things calmed, we spoke and he put it down to his anger about his dad’s death and couldn’t be more sorry for how he was. Thankfully he’s agreed to counselling so that’s given me comfort that he can get the help he needs. He feels a responsibility because of how his mum is handling it and his siblings that he’s got to be the strong one and that means hes not grieved for his dad.
It was tough to take that anger and hear those words but I understand why it happened and we’re in a good place. My point of this post is to see other spouses experiences with this and how they’ve handled it. Plus any advice on helping my husband through this is most welcomed. I just don’t want things to explode like that again as it is so out of character for him and us.