So am feeling guilty and crying about it . I am ment to be going out with the girls from work tomorrow ( which I always did when my husband was here he never stopped me ) but I have bought I new top to go out in tried it on really like it and so would he …… then the guilt and tears start why don’t know cos am going out and having a life . I know he would want me to go out so I don’t get it
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No matter what we do we feel guilty. All part of the grieving process sadly. I really hope you have a nice time x
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Ii guess its cos we dont really want to leave them behind and that perhaps by moving on and doing things feels like we moving on ? Its painful.isnt it ? Cant win really ! We either sit and mope but then if we do things we feel awful as well 
xx
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Yeah doesn’t matter what we do x but if he was here I would be going out I just might not stay out for as long as I normally would have 
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Try and have a nice time though … you can keep thinking of him … maybe take a pic of him in your bag so you feel like your taking him with you xx
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I have a necklace with his ashes in so he will be with me xx feel if I put this off how many times will I put it off xx
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Yea I cry too a lot its not as much as it has been, but little thing can start me crying again, for no reason, yes there is a reason, its the loss of a women I loved, and the pain of that loss dose not seem to go at all.
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I understand totally how you are feeling. My partner, who passed 11 weeks ago never enjoyed going on holidays so for the last 10 years I’ve been going away for a week once or twice a year with my daughter and SIL. He was always happy for me to do this and was quite content staying at home on his own. I’m due to go this weekend for a week, it’s my birthday tomorrow and my daughters are taking me out for lunch and then Saturday I’m going away for a week. I feel so guilty going away and leaving his ashes at home while I go. It makes no logical sense and I know he would want me to go and enjoy my week but the guilt is so intense. I will go as it would upset my daughter and SIL who have been so supportive, if I don’t but it’s with a heavy heart that I do it
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I really think, that when some one you loves died, half of you go’s with them, and what you are left with is half a person, that’s broken in 2 now.
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No don’t put it iff ! Go ! You may even enjoy it ? My daughter jusr done that. Got a necklace for her and my granddaughter with grandads ashes in. I dont really feel i need to because i wear his wedding ring. Enjoy yourself. He want you to xx
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Don’t feel guilty. Sadness and happiness can sit side by side and be felt at the same moment. Don’t feel that you can’t have times when you laugh and feel happy.
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