Hi, my Mum passed away unexpectedly on 20th March 23. I was her only daughter and my dad has never been around so my mum was my best friend. She lived at the back of me and we saw each other every day.
Now, she’s gone and I’m finding it really hard to accept that I’ll never see her again. It was so quick and I just can’t cope without her. I feel so lost and alone and it seems unreal. I can’t understand how a person so filled with life and personality can just go!! I’ve always had trouble with understanding death but I really don’t know how I’m going to carry on and spend the rest of my life without someone so important to me.
I have my husband and my son but I’m so lost without her and I can’t see how I’ll ever get over losing her and learn to live without her. Other people do I know but I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to.
I’m so sorry to hear that you’re experiencing this. I can’t offer you words of comfort Only that I’m going through the same and feel exactly like you do as my mum died suddenly too. It’s so hard. I keep panicking that she’s gone. One minute I accept it. The next I’m in denial. I’m looking at her empty chair now and my heart breaks.
If you need to talk , please message me.
Look after yourself. Allow yourself time to grieve. Have some time alone away from your family. That helps me x
So sorry to hear of the loss of your rock. Stay strong and think of the good she would want for you going forward. In living on with her in your memory
I am part of this ‘club’ to that we did not want any part of.
I lost my Mum on the 11th March and I’m struggling so much. She was only 50 and I can’t cope being only 32 without a mum
I am sorry that you are going through the same, I’m not sure what I can say to ease the pain, but I thought maybe it would help to know that you aren’t alone and this forum really does help.
If it wasn’t for this forum, I honestly don’t know what I’d do cause when I talk to my family and boyfriend I feel like I’m annoying them. But this forum has been my savior to be honest.
Hi I’m sorry to hear about your mum I lost my mum 4 weeks ago she had a colonoscopy bag and I noticed she was bleeding from the stoma so I called an ambulance took her in , she dad a hernia and it stout her bowel she died 5 days later me and my youngest daughter stayed with her every night until she died I just can’t cope and I’m broken like you my mum was my best friend and very close I moved in with her 6 years ago to look after her when her partner John died she was never really the same after, and a year ago she was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s it was so hard watching her get worse she was 83 pink bobbed hair so funny and the most selfless person she brought me and my two brothers up on her own and worked all hours although she struggled she saved up all year to make sure we had lots of Christmas presents, one of her jobs she worked in a bakers shop and always came home with left over cakes she was a beautiful person, I just can’t believe she has gone it’s unbearable the pain without her can’t believe I can’t call her or be with her anymore I miss her so much I feel so lost and lonely, I actually feel like a little girl and just want my mum I have a few moments feeling ok when I’m with my daughters and grandkids but then I get this terrible feeling of realising my mum is never coming back I don’t think I’ll ever be really happy again as I feel my life is never going to be the same without her, I actually feel like I’m watching every moving around and I’m standing still just looking around and feeling like I’m not in the same world, you’re message stood out to me the most and I feel so sorry for you as I am the same maybe we can keep in touch and go through it together step by step and hopefully help each other sending love and hugs to you xx
Hi @Hayley78 ,
I lost my mum just over 4 months ago. One thing that struck me in your message personally, was that I valued my Mum more, because my Dad wasn’t around. It seemed to make the pain worse.
Many are really struggling on this forum but keep talking and sharing the pain does move things, a little at a time.
I feel exactly the same. Im so sorry youre going through this too. I feel like it is getting a bit easier with each week that passes but then it suddenly hits ne again and i feel as though ive taken 3 steps back. I just miss her so much, it still hurts. The loneliness is the worse part of it. I have a beautiful loving family but i still feel lonely without my best friend and biggest supporter.
I wish condolences for you and your family.
Next of kin is also a lonely place. Some family don’t know when to enquire vs to not bring up. Disappointing at times but we not all perfect
So sorry for your loss I’m the same I lost my beautiful mum in April she was my best friend and my everything I also have a husband and two girls and two grandchildren but my mum was my everything I’m lost and so alone all the same as you I can’t believe she’s gone and I can’t speak or touch her cuddle her phone her I feel like I’m in a nightmare and will never be able to be happy without her I’m so sad and broken with out her in fact there is no words to say how I feel I miss her every minute of the day, I feel the world and everything and everyone is still the same but I’m standing still and in the wrong world so I’m sending you love to you as I know you feel the same