Hi, I,m really struggling at the mo to come to terms with my current situation and my head is completely In the shed and overcome with grief, loss and pain. I lost my husband of 38 years just 6 months ago and although he wasn’t well his illness was unexpected. I am so blessed to have amazing friends who have been such a help but the one thing that made his passing bearable and able to get my head and my life back to some kind of normality has been my (our) Son. My Son recently got his own place aftr years in temp accomm and we had planned for me to stay every wkend when I wasn’t working to help us both move on with our lives and be company for each other, we were planning our first Xmas together without his Dad (my husband) and although we knew it wld be difficult and not the same without him we were nevertheless looking forward to it. A week ago my Son died, he was only 35, I am beside myself with grief and the loss and emptiness I,m feeling is beyond words, he was my world, we were a very close family, we had the best times and laughs with each other and genuinely enjoyed spending time together, talked every day or sent messages to each other, spoke every night last thing to say gnight to each other. I have lost both my most precious boys within 6 months of each other, I used to have a family and now there,s only me, there is no family now. I have wonderful friends but they cannot fil the void or loneliness I,m feeling at the mo. I guess I,m just reaching out to hear how anyone going through similar has coped. I do know to keep myself busy, go out, keep in contact with friends etc etc but nothing seems 2b working. Thank u for listening. X
Dear Mrs Bling, so so sad that you are going through such a hard and lonely time, my heart goes out to you. My dear husband died 5 years ago and I miss him every day. My 50 year old son has advanced kidney cancer and I know that he might die to, and he has a partner and 10 year old and 5 year old daughters. Feel so lost like you do and with the dark nights and Christmas just round the corner I feel so down as well. Sending you love and understanding and big big hugs dear one xxxxx from caz3j
I’m so sorry for your loss of your husband and son and l just can imagine what you are going through l lost my husband in October suddenly 
we where together for 55 years and lm devastated but to lose you son to is terrible there are some lovely people on here to share with you please keep in touch
I,m so sorry to hear you lost your husband, so v recently too, 55 years together, wow, that’s amazing! I hope you have family around you to hold your hands and surround you with love to help you through your grief, it was having my Son by my side that helped me start to get through the loss of my husband (we helped each other). Thank you for replying and your kind words, its such a help as now dealing with the loss of my Son is so very overwhelming and this time I,m alone in my grief. X
Thank you for replying. Sorry to hear you lost your husband. Like you I think about my husband every day, I did feel tho that I was finally getting used to a new normal and beginning to function again in a more positive way, I felt like I,d turned a corner but obv now with the sudden death of my Son my world has been shattered with a grief and sense of loss so intense and painful I cannot see my way forward and doubt I will ever feel whole or be truely happy again. I,m so sorry to hear about your Son being v ill, it must be so v hard for you and your family to watch him going through this and to know that you may loose him and like u say somehow these dark nights, Winter and Xmas make things seem all the harder. I wish you and your family all the love and strength for the times ahead. Having people reply to my post and offer words of guidance, love and solace I hope will help me through, I hope you find some comfort in talking to others too.
I am so very sorry MrsBling and Caz. I can’t begin to imagine what you are both having to endure. Losing a partner is devastating enough, losing a son or daughter, or watching them suffer must be agonising.
I don’t have the words, but you are both in my thoughts and prayers.
Jane xx
How utterly devastating for you. I’m sending you my heartfelt condolences at such a hard time. We all have to try and find somerhing to make us carry on, even if it small. I am trying to carry on with some of the friendships my partner had made over tge years. He always found people who needed looking after, so I’m trying to do some of that for him. Also to enjoy things he would have liked on his behalf.