my name is george i lost my wife in jan this year after being together for nearly 40years.she was 62.i am 79 a big age differance.dont know who to talk to .i live alone have just mmy 2cats i have family but they live away.but cant stop getting upset at everything.being old i cant understand all the 6things i have to do on here might need help.get so down especialy at night no one to chat toget suicidal thoughts all the time.gave up drinking 30years ago dont want to start again.my grand daughter thinks i should try and find a new lady but thats not so simple.it could only be someone who has gone through the same pain.am i wrong to think about new friendships realy need some help.


Hi @artfuldodger41,

Thank you so much for starting this thread and for being so open about how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to read about your Wife and that you have suicidal thoughts all the time. It sounds as though you are finding things overwhelming which is completely understandable - I wanted to let you know about some helpful services, some of which offer 24/7 support, which might help you when you are feeling down at night.

Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence - you can call them on 116 123.
Shout are also contactable 24/7 but this time by text - all you need to do is text SHOUT to 85258 to talk to them about anything.
● If you are at risk of harming yourself, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.

Sue Ryder also offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and
sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. You can find more information about the service here: www.sueryder.org/counselling. You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services specific to your area and/or situation.

Finally, WAY Up are there for people aged 50+ who have lost a partner - they offer online
forums and offline meet-ups if you think that might be helpful.

You deserve care and support so please keep reaching out and consider getting in touch with one of these services, @artfuldodger41.

Take care,

Online Community team


Hi George, I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine how you must be feeling. Sending you hugs and please know that you are not alone. So many people are going through similar feelings.

Thank you so much.i know everyone says time is a healer so onward.i must go.xx

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Hi George, I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. My Dad is a similar age to you and is finding life very hard after my Mum’s death (40 years together too). Keep writing on here as there are so many people who understand, I’ve found it a life-saver. x

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