I lost my dad on new years eve, gone, suddenly and unexpected, I never got a chance to tell him I love him, thank him for being the best dad or even just to talk to, I’ve been really struggling to come to terms with it or even go about day to day life, and be there for my kids, I’ve just came across a video off him talking on his last birthday when he turned 60 and its put me 10 steps backwards I havny heard his voice in over 3 months and I have that soul crushing feeling after the realisation that all I have left now are 2 minute snippets off videos and photos, please someone tell me it gets easier 
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Hi @Zoeymarie87,
Thank you for bravely reaching out. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. You are not alone. I’m not sure if you’ve seen our Losing a parent category. But there you can connect with other members who are living with grief after losing a parent.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support to you. In the meantime, you might find these Sue Ryder resources helpful to read.
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Our Losing a parent page talks through some of the emotions you may be experiencing
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through
I hope you find the community to be a support to you. Take good care and keep reaching out 
Alex
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I’m not sure I can say it gets easier (I’m 5 months in from the loss of my mother and best friend) but I’m getting more used to the grief, for want of a better description. I know what to expect mostly now and I have found a few coping strategies eg going for a walk in green places, talking to her, quietly raising money for the charities that helped us - but it’s really really hard. People on this site help - we are all in the same place - and having a distraction helps (I still work full time) and taking things a day at a time is a cliche because it is true. I’m so sorry you have had to join the club no one wants to be a part of - but at least here you will find genuine understanding which you may not find elsewhere. People try to be kind, but unless they have walked in our shoes they just don’t get it. Try to be kind to yourself- try to eat well, rest well and get some exercise. Love and hugs J
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I’m so so sorry for your loss, I lost my mum at 18 sadly and over the last 4 years have learnt so much about grief, and somthing I’ve found to be true is, grief is like waves at first they are so powerful and close together it feels like your drowning then they carm down only to rise again and knock you down, over time you learn to live with them and as you find peace the waves become further apart, sometimes they will come out of nowhere and take you down other times it builds up over time, basically even when it seams impossible it gets easier , try to find some peace in the pain, it’s all the love that has nowhere to go, it helps me to look at things positive and be thankful for the times I’ve had but it’s so okay to feel angry sad and just let them emotions flow out, I really hope your okay sending hugs.
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