My partner and father of my children died suddenly in April. My son is not coping at all. He is using alcohol and drugs as a crutch and is feeling suicidal and very depressed. He won’t accept any help from any resources , doctor etc. He is very angry and goes into drunken rages quite often. One is actually happening this evening. I want to help him but dont know how and frankly im scared of him when he is like this. I was wondering if anyone else has been through this and had any advice. I’m desperate
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Hi Sarah741, I am sorry for your loss. Does your son has a girlfriend,? if yes, you may need her help too.
Sometimes at a certain age ,there’s a voice sons listen to & understand better than their mother’s. He is feeling pain, empty & out of ideas on how to control his emotions, you need something that will occupy his mind, if he has a girlfriend talk to her, he needs her more in this situation, combine efforts.
I pray GOD gives you victory over this situation. Our children are precious.
Thank you for your reply. He doesnt have a girlfriend and has dropped all his friends and totally isolated himself. He barely speak to me and ignores his sister. It’s so hard to know how to help .
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Hi @Sarah741,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your partner.
I’m not sure how old your son is, but Winston’s Wish offer advice and support in helping young people cope with grief.
You can speak to their experienced team of bereavement professionals for guidance on supporting grieving children and young people. You can call them on 08088 020 021 (8am-8pm, weekdays), email ask@winstonswish.org or use their live chat (8am-8pm, weekdays).
For out of hours mental health support, text WW to 85258 to speak with someone from Shout.
There’s more information on their website:
Barnardo’s also offer grief support. The number for their Belfast office is 028 9066 8333.
If you feel like he’s in crisis and isn’t safe, please do reach out for urgent help by calling 999.
The community is here for you, too. Take good care,
Seaneen
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