I am so sorry. Sending you a big hug.
Cheers Cat, it’s hard to except that my lovely, vibrant partner now fits in a fucking pot. Having a really hard time getting my head around it, sorry for the language
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Can you not pick a different urn?
That’s not the issue. It’s the fact she’s in there at all, could give a monkeys what the pot/urn looks like.
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I know what you mean it is a shock.
I agree picked my husbands ashes up bought a beautiful teardrop but it’s just a pot to me can’t talk to him in it should be here in body I find photos on the mantlepiece are more comfort hate it now his ashes are here strange when we used to talk about me talking to him everyday when home it is totally different
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Have you got any support!
@Siggs
I know how much it hurts picking up our loved one ashes and the final thing we have to do for them…Bloody awful though and just terribly sad they’re not still here with us…
For me personally I still feel John is with me. The ashes are still him…
We all think differently though.
I’ve taken some ashes out for him to go with me when it’s my turn and the rest will be scattered in his beloved Ribchester when his son gets time to be there…
He’s too busy sorting the will n money…that unfortunately is more important to him than his dads remains…He hasn’t actually asked where they are yet and I’ve had them since beginning of April…
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Mitzi1
So sorry that must be so hard for you. It’s even harder when family members don’t seem to really care.
My older brother was like that when our dad died. Fortunately I had a younger brother who cared and helped me support mum for 13 years after dad died. Unfortunately he died at 59, then my mum and then my precious husband 22 months ago. They are all buried close to one another which is some comfort but I wish they were all here with me.
Nothing can prepare us for these traumatic happenings.
Take care and hope you have some support.
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Totally agree, I have a lovely picture of Karen mounted in glass that I was given for my upcoming birthday on Friday which I find much more comforting
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@Julia12
John’s son is from his first marriage. He really hasn’t carried out his dad’s last wishes and as we didn’t live together there is nothing I can do except make my feelings known face to face in time…
As I’m not in the will because I chose not to be and because I didn’t need anything from John except him, I’m impartial but I do like honesty
When money rears its ugly head is seems to change people…
I know for a fact my two sons will be totally honest with each other and people I have left things to in my will…
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Mitzi1
I can see why you wouldn’t want to be in John’s will. We don’t want to deal with these difficult situations
When we are grieving.
My husband after being diagnosed
With terminal cancer said to me that at least you will have my pension. I said I don’t want your pension I want you.
Money is of little use when your soul mate is not with you.
I’m sure your sons will be kind and thoughtful for you.
Take care.
My partner died a whole month ago today. I am lost without her- she was my everything. She died two years to the day we finally stopped flirting and both admitted how we felt. In those two years I was the happiest I’ve ever been. Now I can’t see any future. I will be 50 a week from today and we had planned a three week holiday after a party to celebrate which she was carefully planning. I know I should be counting my blessings to have found my person but two years was nowhere near enough to make enough memories together. The guilt of not being with her when she died is too much.
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I am so sorry for your loss.
How are you?
Not good at all tonight.
I am sorry to hear that.
Have you got any support?
All alone in a house in the middle of nowhere. Telephone support but it all goes quiet after 7pm.
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Exactly my situation mate, exactly the same.
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I am very sorry to hear that!