I met a lovely man 9 months ago. We have held a Commitment Ceremony to each other. His wife died 4yrs ago. They had been married 50yrs. I have never lost a partner that way. Her ashes are in an urn by the TV. Alongside photos of him and her. All her clothes are in the wardrobe in our bedroom .vi bought him a shirt and jacket and now he said he’s put them in the wardrobe with her clothes. I went into the bedroom last night and I know women’s perfume had been sprayed as he keeps half empty bottle and blusher brush etc. His number plate is her name. I’m not coping very well . . .
@Equitriangle69 Thanks for sharing. If it were me (& I know it’s not) I’d be sitting him down and having a chat with him about how you are feeling regarding what you’ve shared with us. (Perhaps make a list beforehand). See how he listens, reacts and engages with you regarding your concerns.
Sorry Equitriangle69 but is doesn’t sound to me as if he is really ready for another commitment or at the least he want’s both of you and you can’t really blame him as 50 years with one lady is a long time. She is still very much a part of his life and as much as he likes your company you might have to be prepared to share him for the time being anyway. Perhaps accept that she is a part of his life and yours.