Hi everyone. I lost my mum 9 years ago (2016) to stage 4 lung cancer, she was diagnosed on Christmas eve & passed away 21st march literally just about 3 months from diagnosis to death, she was only 62. And i was only 29, my dad passed away from lung and brain cancer literally 4 years before .When she died, i shut down, i was also going through an abusive marriage at the time.
I met someone else in 2018, his parents have been very nasty to me on & off over past 7 years, being around his mother makes me so angry , full of hate and resentment, if she looks or breaths in my direction,i just think how are you aloud to be alive and my mum cant, if she texts or rings my parter i go from calm to thermo nuclear in a matter of milliseconds. I feel that ive been robbed and cheated out of having my mum. Of latre im getting more and more angry and resentful. Its got to the point i hate his mum, how do i get passed these feelings? Its eating me up, its causing depression and low moods
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your parents. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
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