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I sm not doing so well this weekend i need a distraction from all this.pain
Sweetlady
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Awww sweet lady im sorry to hear its not been a good weekend.. anything i can do to help?
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I just need someone to talk to i had a friend but he is ghosting me now an i did nothing wrong we left our last coversation on a good note 3weeks ago but now he will not talk to me at all
Sweetlady
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Well im always here if you ever need a talk or a hug
Hi I’m new to this group.
I’m really struggling. I lost my nanna on Tuesday. She was 93, she had a heart attack before she went to bed, and was found early in the morning on the kitchen floor, lifeless.
I got the call she had gone.
Me and my family cared for my nanna, I would go round most day’s to shower her, curl her hair, clean her house, do her washing. She lives at the top of my road and has done all my life. We were so close, we always had been from the day I was born. We shared the same birthday.
I can’t get the image of her lying lifeless on the kitchen floor out my head, watching her get taken out of the house in a bag, I keep replaying scenarios of her suffering, all alone on the cold floor.
I can’t believe she’s gone, I feel physically sick, I feel numb and empty. I don’t feel I’m ever going to recover from this. The death was so unexpected. The evening before my dad was there, she was laughing, chatting, eating cakes, doing everything as normal and within a few hours she’s gone. How does this happen? How can life be so cruel? I can’t process this. I can’t sleep, I have such bad nightmares and I’m due back to work on Tuesday.
I’ve never lost someone so close to me at an older age. How can I ever be happy again?
I’m really struggling 
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Hello ktw, im so sorry to here the passing of your Nanna, I know how you feel, losing a loved one is the hardest thing we will experience in our life 
, and im so sorry you had to witness them carrying her out from the home that must have been traumatic as well. My husband passed away 9 weeks ago in the hospital,and I left him after my goodbyes and many tears i didn’t want to see them take him away. We just have to take each day as it comes, remember the good times with her, as time passes it’ll get easier. But we’ll never forget our loved ones, they’re forever in our memories and our hearts 
, May God bless you
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Hi lightmary thank you for your response. I am so deeply sorry you went through this. God bless you 
thank you for sharing.
I guess we have to take it one day/hour/minute at a time. Just trying to survive now really. Life really is so precious, but yet so cruel. I always remember the good times but it’s so hard to comprehend that she’s really gone, my brain just cannot come to terms with it. Her funeral will be in June, and that is my last goodbye, and I don’t think I’m ready
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I’m so sorry for your loss - it is never easy. Remember those good times, remember the love and the comfort that they knew how much they were wanted and filled with love. Sending you a big big hug for today. Be strong. You got this. We are all in this together x
I am so sorry for your loss, what a heart breaking thing to have to witness / go through!
I hope you are comforted by the fact that right up until the end your nanna was with loved ones laughing and living life to the full. That would be her last memory - one filled of happiness and love with the people around her.
We are all in this together. She is looking down on you now wanting you to remember the good times, the laughs, and wanting you to smile.
Be strong. Sending you a massive hug x
Hi @JWebber87
How are you doing? Hope you are managing. I had a few tears yesterday, went to see a show at a theatre with friends and it hit me that mum isn’t here and would have enjoyed doing these things. Nothing anyone can do and I will have to get through it. But it helps to just say it as don’t want to upset family by telling them and didn’t want to upset my friends yesterday and spoil their day. Thank you for posting as I’m sure it will help many 
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I’m ok and I hope you are too. I’m sure she was there watching that show with you. Hugs x
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Thank you for your kindness. I’m glad you are ok. It’s a long time since I have seen you posting on the site. Often wondered how you were. I told myself mum was there with me. Thank you again x
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Hi everyone I not coping well I really struggle with the weekends ! I’m so lonely it’s hard to move on I’m trying to keep busy but it’s so hot! To try to do anything I don’t know what to do with myself I feel like I will never feel the same again !why do people say the are there for you and there not I don’t understand it! I’m lonely grieving and angry and nobody cares the tears are coming again enjoy the weather I’ve had my moan!
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Dear Abi, I am sorry to hear your pain. I understand your loneliness. it’s very difficult to live on your own when we have always had company day and night. I have two people who phone me once a week and without that I don’t know what I would do. If it weren’t for this site I would go bonkers.
It’s funny about the weather. I have been complaining for ages about all the rain and now it’s so hot that even going for a walk becomes difficult and for me walking is one of my methods for dealing with my bereavement.
I hope you are feeling a little better now
Wishing you all the best
Tom
Hi,
I’m having a bad few days that ended, today, in a total breakdown. Dad died in difficult circumstances in hospital and we think his care was not good enough. This is preying on my mind, plus the fact that I had problems in the last few years that caused distance between us (it was me, not him) and Mum tells me he forgave me for all of it… and I couldn’t see this while he was alive. Couldn’t make the most of our time, together, while we still had it. I’m hating myself and struggling with guilt and a sense of loss that is leaving me breathless. I worry that I hurt him, and I know that I’ve lost one of the greatest friends and allies I could have had, and this hurts more because the same problems I’ve had mean I currently have very few friends and almost no support: I can’t rely on Mum, she is grieving, too. It’s been a bad day and this first year is going to be so hard.
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Hi Mike, I’m sure your father wouldn’t hold anything against you because you are his son and when we face death it’s just the love for our family that is present everything else becomes insignificant.
As for the hospital I have in my case and suggest in yours that you forget it. Your father is dead, like my wife and whether something should or could be done differently will not change anything.
It seems to me that you now have a very important unspoken commission from your father to look after your mother who as you said is grieving. Helping her will heal you.
Wishing you strength to cope
Tom
Hi brandon1 thanks for understanding it’s hard being alone some days I cope really well then I’m a complete mess again and feel I will never get over this! I wanted to go for a walk but it’s much to hot today even sitting in the garden was to much I just want to chat face to face with people and not to feel so alone I know it’s still early days but seems longer let’s hope tomorrow is a better day! Have a lovely evening
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You must put those thoughts right out of your head!!!
From my understanding most parents love is unconditional. And he wouldn’t want you to torture yourself.
Best that you can try to bring some of your happier memories forward in your troubled mind.
As crazy as it is the destroying thoughts want to win but each time they surface breathe in for 7 counts and out for 10 counts. You may do this over and over but fingers crossed they will leave your troubled mind for a moment.
Be a little bit kind to yourself 
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I love how we all look out for eachother. This site brings that support that we all need. Whenever you are feeling down reach out - there is always someone that will help. Our loved ones are looking down on us right now wanting us to simply smile
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