I am really struggling to know how to cope. My mum had a massive bleed on the brain and a stroke. Two days later she died. I’m in shock and I just dont know how to live without her. I cry so much and I sleep alot. I am ao lost without my best friend and soul mate. She was the world to me and we had a deep love and connection. I just want to be with her. The funeral is in a few days and I can’t bear the thought of having to say goodbye. I know she is with me in my heart. I pray and talk to her everyday now. I have never felt grief like it and the emptiness and longing is so immense. What do you do to cope? xx
Love to everyone going through grief 
Hello @Indigo.14,
I’m so sorry to hear about your mum.
The sudden death of someone close to you can often leave you with intense feelings to cope with as you grieve. And you might also be coping with the trauma and shock of it, which can make it all the more difficult.
Many of our members have experienced a sudden death and will understand some of what you’re going through. You can read some recent conversations about this by clicking this link. You might find some comfort and support in knowing you’re not alone.
You may also find our support page on coping with the loss of a parent helpful to read.
Please do keep reaching out and take care,
Seaneen
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I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. The shock after the sudden death of your Mum is something no one should have to go through - and I know because it happened to me just over 2 months ago. How to cope with it is so hard, I spent a lot of time in a daze, I suppose, just doing what I had to do. At first there was a lot of paperwork and such to do and that was a distraction, but once the majority of that was done, then the grief really hit me.
I coped by putting one foot in front of the other, and by taking a day, an hour or even a minute at a time. You will get through it because you have to for your Mum.
I hope you have family and friends who can help you through this - turn to them for support if you can, and the community is always here if you need it. Many of us are going through the same thing, and can offer a lot of support and comfort.
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