Has anyone else had this problem.
Since my beloved husband died nearly 4 years ago I am finding that our children are making the death of their dad an excuse to leave our grandchildren with me. They say it is to keep me company, but In reality it is so they can go out on the town and enjoy themselves. It is happening more and more since our youngest son remarried and our eldest son got divorced. They bring them on the Friday evening and collect them on a Sunday teatime. There are three of them aged under 12 years of age. I feed them, play games with them, take them out for a meal, and see they get a shower then the same thing again over the next two days. I am 75 years old and shattered.
I love my grandchildren, but I also want to go out with my family for a meal etc. I don’t get invited to their homes, they always want to visit me in my own home so I am making meals and coffees then am left with the clearing up.
Today they were on holiday so our son and daughter-in-law dropped our grandsons off at 8 am this morning and collected them at 3 pm. I gave them their breakfast, dinner and baked a cake with them. I heard one of the boys ask his dad where they were now going and his dad told him they were all going out for a meal. Was I invited, no.
I was told a few weeks ago I was putting on a birthday party for our two grandsons, which I didn’t mind too much, as they were moving into their new home. All our daughter-in-laws family were coming, our son and his girlfriend etc. All in all there were 17 people. I spent over £300 on food and then there were drinks gin, vodka, prossecco plus all the soft drinks and nibbles.
Not one of them brought a bottle of anything or a bunch of flowers. It is now a week later and I have not received a thank you card from anyone. I did it all on my own, I trimmed up and purchased the food from M & S. Most of the family stayed overnight so after they all went home the day after, I had to strip the beds, wash all the sheets and remake them. The boys had spilled juice on the bedding, our daughter-in-law had changed their new baby on the bedspread and marked it and I also had about eight bath towels to wash after they all got showered.
Like I say, I am 75 years old and am feeling as if I am only here to be their slave and to be honest, it is getting to the stage, I don’t want to see them anymore. My husband would be so annoyed that I am being used this way.
To be honest, I am totally fed up.