Hi Jean Jeanie, I’m very sorry to hear about the death of your husband. Please don’t think that you should ‘get over it’. People say that you never really get over grief, but you do eventually find ways to live alongside it.
I’m glad that this site has helped reassure you that your feelings are normal. However, I do understand that it can also be upsetting to read about other people’s grief. Different forms of support are right for different people, so if you feel that it is upsetting you more than it is helping you, then you can absolutely stop using it, or take a step back and only log in at the times when it feels right. You can also control your email notifications by editing your profile, so you don’t get surprised by upsetting posts in your inbox.
I just wanted to let you know that, if you think you might benefit from a more one-on-one form of support (as well as or instead of the community), we also offer an online bereavement counselling service, which takes place over video chat. Find out more here: https://support.sueryder.org/bereavement-counselling/about