Today I decided to do a minor rearrangement of furniture. I have two seats and a sofa and all I’ve done is swap them around. When Martin was here we’d change them round every few months. So why am I in floods of tears? It’s been nearly 14 months since he died andeven the most minor changes feel like a betrayal.
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I am in floods of tears de icing a freezer. Who knows what sets us off? Coming up to 4 months for me.
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@Stillhiswife about 3 months after my husband passed I got some new bedroom furniture. It was long overdue but we’d had other things to deal with. I felt so guilty, like I was trying to eradicate him from the bedroom. He wouldn’t have cared about the furniture. But it’s strange how our minds work.
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My wife liked religious stuff. Stuff on the walls like ‘god bless this house’ plates, religious ornaments, and I hated them. I haven’t moved them though. They are a nice reminder and I don’t want it to seem like her stuff didn’t matter. Strange as it may seem, they help.
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@Stillhiswife i don’t think it’s betrayal I think it’s what he would want you to live your life as you are doing . I am changing a lot because I need to make my life easier.
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Sorry to hear