My husband passed away in August 2021…after a very short illness, that, came right out of the blue. We had been together for 49 years, married for 45 years.
Tomorrow its his birthday, I feel numb, like I’m ok, why do I feel like this, why aren’t I crying and upset.
Hello Mrsmann
I’m sorry about the loss of your Husband. Like you I’ve pondered the same, but what about all those invisible tears that you cry everyday. The ones that make you feel you’ve been weeping none-stop? I think nature dictates, I don’t think we have as much control as we like to imagine we do. Just make sure you have lots of hankies on you. you don’t want to get taken by surprise in the local supermarket - I’ve done that! Kindness to you.
1 Like
Hello Tina19
I know what you mean…I’ve had those times to, one was in the dentist’s.
Thankyou for your understanding and kindness…
Take care
1 Like
Dear Mrs Mann,
I think many bereaved people find it hard to cry, let go and end up feeling numb. I don’t know perhaps it’s a safety valve! After the initial shock after Pete died and then the funeral I found I couldn’t cry again until I went to see a bereavement therapist many months later and sitting quietly with a stranger I just ended up in floods of tears and did feel relieved. I know it’s not for everyone but she did give me some good advice about coping with my thoughts and feelings which I can think about when I’m reliving everything.
We to had been together for many years like you and your husband . Our Anniversary is on Valentines Day which I struggle with as well as all the other once memorable days.
Thinking of you, Jenny x
1 Like
I get upset at anything six weeks after losing June my wife of nearly 44 years suddenly in front of me. To say I have been in shock is an understatement. I have not missed a single day without breaking down. Sometimes tears flow other times I just sob uncontrollably. I’m on meds now unfortunately. I don’t want to be but I hope they will be a crutch to lean on temporarily. I think how we feel on a particular day is outside our control. Something triggers a response and I lose it again.
1 Like
Oh bless ya I totally understand what your saying.
Me to, .with the meds, if it helps that’s ok, it has taken that rawness off for me so hope it does the same for you. I’m also having counselling with Sue Ryder and that’s helping to.
That’s all very natural you just have to go with it.
Take care and keep letting it out…
2 Likes