I lost my cousin suddenly and even a year on I'm finding it hard to cope

My cousin died when we were both 17, I turned 18 recently and I’m still finding it hard to comprehend that I’m never going to see her again. I miss her more than I want to admit

Hi Edith May,

Welcome to the Sue Ryder Online Community. I’m so sorry to hear that your cousin died at such a young age. As you were the same age, I guess you probably have a lot of memories together from when you were growing up?

It is understandable that you miss her an awful lot. A year is not really a long time to come to terms with the loss of someone close.

I’m glad that you’ve found this site, and I hope it helps to be able to write down what you are feeling here. You may also be interested to read this post from Em about how she coped with losing her dad when she was 17: https://support.sueryder.org/community/life-after-bereavement/my-experiences

It can help to have people to talk to, rather than keeping it all bottled up. Do you talk to other family members or friends about how you feel, or about your memories of your cousin?

If you are at school or college, they might also be able to offer you some support - it is different at different schools, but there may be a school counsellor or a head of year or pastoral support staff who you can talk to if you are struggling.

Cruse Bereavement is another good organisation if you’d like to talk to someone one-to-one - contact them on 0844 477 9400 or helpline@cruse.org.uk

Get Connected also offer free telephone counselling to under-25s: http://www.getconnected.org.uk/mental-health/get-connected-counselling/