I lost my dad suddenly 5 weeks ago and I am finding it so hard to accept. I was really close with my dad, he was my best friend who I went to for everything and to not have him here anymore I feel so lost.
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Hello @Emmamaire,
I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. It’s understandable you’re feeling so lost without him. I hope you find the community to be a support to you.
As your dad’s death was sudden, you might also be coping with the trauma and shock of it, which can make it all the more difficult. Many of our members have experienced a sudden death and will understand some of what you’re going through. You can read some recent conversations about this by clicking this link. You might find some comfort and support in knowing you are not alone.
You may also find our info page on coping with sudden deaths helpful to read.
Take good care and keep reaching out.
I am in the same situation. It has been 2 months and I feel every emotion every day. I miss him so much.
Hi I’m in the same situation, lost my dad my absolute best friend on the 23rd October, I spoke to him the night before everything was good, went to work got a call to say he’s not got there, drove to the flat he lived in and as I approached the door my heart sank like I’ve never felt before, went inside and immediately saw blood and faeces everywhere, I panicked ran to his room and froze he laid there in front of me eyes wide open mouth wide open still and I just screamed, my whole world came crashing down on me that day, seeing my dad like that the man who’s always been fit strong and just such a gentle nice person! Rang 999 balling my eyes out he’s dead he’s dead dropping to the floor ambulance arrives they monitor him etc and the paramedic turns to me and the words still fresh in my mind “your fathers heart isn’t responding” that day will forever be the hardest day of my life! Watching him be carried out by the private ambulance, broke me even more covered up on his way for an autopsy having the police arrive etc for sudden death investigation, his home just covered in blood and poo from where he has just struggled and panicked and tried to call someone maybe me or an ambulance I don’t know and will never know! I did my best for him that man shaped me, week before his funeral I’m in the chapel of rest and he’s there stone cold not moving and I’m just hoping that he’d wake up any second and go “alright boyo” one last time but it never came my grandson born literally 2 weeks after he was so excited to see him and now never got to! I can’t cope with it, it’s chewing me up!
Sorry to hear what happened and for loosing your dad. Mine was a similar situation where I had spoke to him the friday and he was completely fine to having to ring the guards to do a welfare check cause I just had this bad feeling and I was right. They found my dad in his room. I thought I would never have to go ID anyone in the morgue but like you when I went in to the chapel of rest to see him will stay with me for the rest of my life. I made sure he got the best send off but it still doesn’t feel real that he is gone. People say time is a healer but right now it doesn’t feel like it!
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Myself too gave him the best send of I possibly could and it was as good as it got, I’m awaiting to collect his ashes and that is going to be even harder I think! It still doesn’t feel real myself I just want him to walk through the door as say alright boyo but I know it’s never coming… literally the hardest thing in my life.
I lost my Dad on the 20th August this year and I just can’t cope.
My sister called me go say dad didn’t feel right and would I pick her up and go to see him. My Dad was a proud man and didn’t want to bother anyone but eventually he let us call an ambulance for him. They evaluated him and said he had a water infection and although he needed to visit hospital he didn’t require an ambulance. That suited dad , he wanted to go by car. I drove him, my sister and my mum to hospital not thinking that 4 of us would go in and 3 would come out. My dad’s condition worsened and he passed away the following morning. Although we were in the hospital we weren’t able to be with when he passed. That’s the hardest thing as we never got to say goodbye and tell him we loved him. Trying to stay strong for my mum and my family at home is breaking me.
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I lost my dad in may this year all of a sudden, I’m finding it near impossible to cope without him. I’ve tried most of the online advice but nothing has changed. I’m starting to feel very low.
It’s all the first without that are the worst parts just trying to get through them. I’m dreading Christmas.
So sorry for your loss. I know just how you feel. Every time my kids do something amazing I rush to the phone to call dad and then it hits me all over again