Hi all.
I lost my beloved mum, aged 78 years on on the 10th July this year. She fought Ovarian cancer since November 2020 and has gone through numerous rounds of chemotherapy, major surgery and more chemo. Its been a horrific rollercoaster the past 5 years. She was doing so well until June this year and started developing complications of the Ovarian cancer and it blocked the bowel. She went into hospital in June and was Nill By Mouth due to the bowel blockage and they said she wouldn’t recover from this and to prepare for end of life. We got her moved into a beautiful care home and a week later she died basically due to malnutrition, starvation because she wasn’t allowed to eat. I watcher her deteriorate each day I visited, I told her I loved her the last time I saw her, she said it back and she died during the night. We just had her funeral on Monday this week and I visited her grave for the first time today. I just feel completely numb and wondering how life can continue without her, how can this be happening it doesn’t feel real. Its been truly traumatising watching her waste away. She was my best friend, my rock and a wonderful Grandmother to my 3 year old son. Just devastated. I’m also trying to help support my poor dad too.
Hi Amanda,
I am so sorry you’ve lost your Mum and are going through this, my heart goes out to you.
My own mum passed away a year ago - yesterday.
She had lung cancer and like your Mum had surgery, radiotherapy and finally chemotherapy. She suffered with numerous infections after her first round of chemo and battled for 7 weeks. We too managed to get Mum to a hospice for the last 2 weeks, which I am so grateful for.
It was a horrific time too and although my Mum was ‘living’ before her first chemo - now having gone through her things and her home I realised she wasn’t really.
My Mum had three grandsons she said goodbye to and that breaks my heart for her and for my boys, I feel like I’m grieving for them too.
Just be kind to yourself, even now I have to remind myself of that.
Feel free to message anytime.
Take care xx