Hi… My mom passed away recently, two weeks ago. She had terminal cancer and lived only six months after her diagnosis. I took care of her and was by her side during some really bad moments of her illness and that has made me develop anxiety for a while now, even before she passed.
The hardest thing for me is that I don’t really talk about it with anyone, ‘cause I feel like I have to be strong all the time because of my grandparents, my mom asked me to be strong for them when she found out about her illness. That is a moment I think about all the time, it was tough to have my mother telling me that she was going to die and I had to be brave. Even if I knew what was going to happen it was and it is still a really hard thing to cope with. I wasn’t ready. I love her and miss her so much :’(
Hi. oriannarashel. Welcome. It’s so early for you to begin to assimilate what has happened. It’s a very sad time for you and no wonder you are in a dilemma. Being strong is more easily said than done, but I am sure you will do your best for your grandparents. Unloading on here is about the best thing you can do at the moment. To be among friends at a time like this is so important. You are among friends here because everyone of the kind folk on this site knows and has been where you are now.
Allow emotions to come. Even if you have to try and put on a brave face at times. Mourn and grieve in you own way. We all do. There are no rules or methods. The only advice I can give at the moment is take it one day or one hour at a time. Your mum would have wanted you to be as brave as you can be for others. She asked you to and she knew how much you can help your grandparents. This site is open 24/7 so any time you want to talk please come back. It was tough, of course it was. It’s a life trauma and one we all have to got through at some stage. Be kind to yourself too. It’s important to try and maintain your health in this trying time. Blessings, and our thoughts are with you.
Hello, it’s tough times for you right now and putting on a brave face is something that many of us do but you need to take care of yourself because you have been through a traumatic time. Your mum must have felt that you are a strong person and would have felt very proud of you. You need time to comes to terms with your loss I am sure your grandparents will look after you if you let them. It’s hard for them loss their child but they will want to be there for you now. Please let others help you and that in turn will help them. Take care, as Jonathan says at this time with the virus you need to take extra care of yourself. My thoughts go with you. Sxx