I lost my 32 year old son almost a month ago, this pain is like no other. It happened on a Friday night between 11 to 1120pm. I found out Saturday morning. My world collapsed, my heart broken, my life torn apart and I can’t seem to get it together. The pain is so deep i can’t begin to describe it. I find myself crying throughout the day, I am not hungry and I just feel like why did he leave me… why did God take him, why is this pain so, so horribly painful???
I can’t stop thinking… what if I called him Friday after work, I just thought let him have fun… never in a million years did I ever think it was my last… I love you, my last hug… I am dying inside… I miss him so much… I thought having his ashes home, having a necklace with his ashes would make me feel better… it’s not… I will never see him walk through this door ever again…
So sorry to hear your pain Tasha i was just scrolling through some posts when I came across yours it must be very raw for you I lost my wife nearly a year now I know it hurts so much. I know it’s not for everyone and it depends on your beliefs but I do find comfort in my belief of spirituality and that the soul lives on. If it’s something you want to explore I would recommend Life After Life by Raymond D Moody and Afterlife by Stephen Hawley Martin. Sending you kind thoughts.
I lost my Darling Husband 12 days ago. I feel no point in carrying on. I am lucky to have very supportive adult children. I just want to be with my Husband and can’t see an end to this raw painful grief I feel. There seems no point to anything now, I dread getting up every day because I know my beloved isn’t with me but equally I hate going to bed because I know I won’t sleep. So my thoughts are with you.
Hi, I’ve never posted before but felt compelled to after reading your post. We lost our 23 year old daughter in July, totally out of the blue. We’re still waiting to find out the cause. Our world has been completely destroyed.
Just wanted to say I’ve felt and still feel what you’re feeling, lack of appetite, wondering whether I could’ve done something, what if I’d done this or that. 5 months on it’s still there and no end in sight. I still think about her every waking minute, even when I’m doing something, I’m still thinking about her.
And so although I can’t offer any advice on how to cope, I just thought I’d let you know how you’re feeling is normal. And there are a million other feelings you can’t articulate that will come and go, you can’t explain it.
It’s the worst thing that can happen to us and so try not to work out what’s next or what’s normal, because everyone is different.
Grief is awful, some days you think you’re losing your mind. Everyone tells you to take it one day at at a time but that’s difficult when your thoughts are racing back and fourth. The tears, the anxiety, the anguish and the feeling your heart has been ripped out have been experienced by everyone on this site.