Hi all, I just need to tell someone how I feel. I am totally lost. My best friend of 49 years died from cancer and a fortnight later I lost my mum. My partner of 30 years told me he doesn’t feel the same about me anymore (a few months before my first loss) and I can feel that he doesn’t in the way he isn’t trying to find things that may make me feel better. (He was always very attentive so this feels completely foreign). My best friend and Mum were my ‘go to’ people all through my life and now I just don’t know where to turn. I have a very busy family (grandparent duties 3 days a week) and feel that I am being forced to behave as I always did but I’m finding it too hard. I just hope I don’t feel like this forever.
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Oh my goodness that’s so harsh! I’m so sorry for your terrible losses, no wonder you don’t know where to turn. You say you have a busy schedule, is that helpful in that it distracts you or is it proving too hard at this awful time for you? I think you need to put yourself first and give yourself time to process all of this shock. Take it a day at a time, grief is a rollercoaster of emotions that take a physical toll. Best wishes xx
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Thank you for taking the time to reply, very kind of you. Yes, I do feel it’s all a bit much sometimes but as you probably know the cost of childcare is ridiculous and neither of my daughters are in the position that they can pay it. My friend passed on April 15th and Mum May 5th (she lived with us so I could care for her for the last 10+ year) so I get that it’s relatively recent but nothing is getting even slightly easier and I find myself trying to figure out a way to feel better. Thanks again for the reply.
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Hi
Have you read the online resources related to managing your grief? There’s lots to look at on the Sue Ryder site. Might give you some ideas of strategies to help…
Take care xx