I miss my Mum so much

My Mum died on May 6th this year from lung cancer and COPD. It all happened so fast and I was with her when she passed. The days are so painful without her and things feel worse now as I haven’t seen her or heard her voice for so long. I keep wanting to call her for a chat as we used to speak twice a day. Even though I’m 52 I just want my Mum back. X

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Hi cai9968

Age doesn’t come into it. You have lost your mum.
Im 49 and my mum who lived with us, died of a sudden brain haemorrhage in june 2019.
I adored my mum and we were best friends. Over 15months on and all I want is her back.
She was only 74 and singing and dancing round the house the week before she died. I still find it hard to accept and believe. I expect her to be in the kitchen when I get up or home from work with a cup of tea wating for me.
You are still in such early days. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve, be upset, be angry, be whatever you want.
The rawness will subside as time goes on but losing our mums is the hardest thing we will ever face.
Cheryl x

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Thank you so much for replying. Such kind words x

That’s ok. You arent alone x

Hello there, firstly I’m deeply sorry for the loss of your lovely Mum :broken_heart: I too lost my mum on the 3rd May this year, she passed away at home in a hospital bed, she had end stage COPD and heart failure, she fought to her last breath and I was honoured to be there with her as she took her final breaths.
I was drawn to your post so much and feel so relatable as your around the same time of your grieving that I am…such a terrible rollercoaster ride isn’t it :broken_heart:
I’d give anything to have my mum back. She turns 88 years old on Christmas Day, I cannot even begin to start to think of a Christmas /Birthday without showing her how much I love her, I can’t begin to even think of Christmas! I want you to know that you are in my thoughts; I’m 45 years old, my dad is 79 years old and I’m helping him and taking care of him which keeps my mind occupied but wow! Every time I go to walk into their home I have to remind myself that my beautiful mama isn’t there…be kind to yourself, have you tried some counselling? I have my last session this week through Sue Ryder, it may be worth thinking about. Always reach out if you need to talk :heart::heart::heart: Xxxx

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@Cal9968 so sorry for the loss of your Mum. I know how you feel. I lost my Mum to lung cancer in March, she was only 63 so it was all such a shock as I thought I would have years with her yet and that future has been taken away. I don’t think age comes into it, it is very tough losing a Mum no matter your age. It is such a hard loss to bear. I hope posting on here helps, even if only a little bit. Take care x

Thank you so much for replying and I am so deeply sorry for your loss too. We really can relate to how we are feeling. I do feel as the days go by it is longer since I saw Mum. She too was downstairs in her lounge in a hospital bed. COPD from smoking and we found out three weeks before she left us that she had lung cancer. Sending a big hug x Caroline x

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. I am so sorry for your loss too. It’s such a tough journey isn’t it xx

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