A letter to mom:
I miss you alot. Sometimes i bury the pain deep within me, so that i dont live a miserable day - or to think that my mom is gone forever. I am happy usually, under the shelter of another family that makes me feel whole. Although sometimes the truth do hit and drag me back to reality whenever a mom figure appears and i think of you. I am trying my best to not live in denial and living my life in ways i think you’d want me to be. On most days I am happy but on bad days the bad feeling brings you back - and that’s when i realise none of my tears are from the bad days but the hole in my heart from missing you. There are no more bad days comparable to losing you in life, no bitter feelings is comparable to not being able to speak with you ever again. And there will not be anyone else that will love me as much as you did or as much as i loved you. I miss you so much.
A letter to mom:
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about the way you’re feeling from the loss of your mum. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
I lost my wonderful mom on valentines day and empathise with everything you have said. I cant find the words to describe how deeply sad i feel to have lost my best friend xx sending you lots of love
Lykng, we’re all going through a similar experience and I think it’s the brain’s way of adjusting to the shock of losing a loved one. But people are amazingly resilient and no matter how terrible it seems right now you will, in time, make the adjustment. I don’t think there’s any shortcut to this - you have to recognize that deep emotions are involved and although one never really gets over a loss like this you will learn to live with it to lead a reasonable life. Crying is a good way to release emotions and I find it a great help, so never be afraid to cry. And you will find the bad days gradually decrease and the good days become more frequent.