My dad passed suddenly on 19th March. He has been living in spain with his partner for 5 years.
He had no illness, he wasn’t poorly. Many people, family & friends spoke to him the day before and he was fine, no complaints.
His partner contacted us the afternoon of 19th and told us he had passed, she told a few of us that it was a heartattack, yet his heart had stopped before paramedics could get there and they were unable to restart it. The story has changed so many times. She said she was taking the dog for a walk, when she returned she found him, shes never walked that dog, with my dad or alone, she never has.
2 days before he died he text me to say lockdown was bad, police patrolling the streets arresting people for being out, they weren’t even allowed to walk the dog, yet she says she was out 45 mins.
He was taken for a postmortem which came back “unnatural cause of death” we were issued an interim death certificate but since the cause of death wasn’t found more tests would have to be taken. On 21st March dad was cremated, still no cause of death yet he was cremated?? Dads partner told us it would take 3 months to get an answer for what happened to him, its now coming up to 5 months and we still don’t know anything.
Dads ashes were returned to his partner, she has now gone off grid. Changing her number and ignoring all contact with the family completely. She’s used excuses like “if I bring his ashes back to the UK I will lose my citizenship” (neither her nor my dad ever had citizenship) “if I bring the ashed back I cant return to spain” and the classic " I cant bring them back to the UK because you’re not allowed to carry ashes on a plane"
We are devastated, confused, angry and just outright distraught that we may never get an answer or get to give him a true send off.
None of it makes any sense, I need to know what happened to my dad. She won’t answer any of us, nor will her sons. We don’t even know what she’s done with dads ashes.
There’s still so much of the story that has us so confused and doubting her. I just don’t know what to think or do.