i really screwed up

I was stupid and blaming my wife for here passing I angrily removed my wedding ring went out drinking met a woman and had her stay the night. I am so mad at myself and so sorry ,I cant take back what I have done and its brought me to my knees.

No !! I blame my husband and shout at him that it shouldnt have happened but it did. However we have to look at what we had before all of us are damaged in some respects. Move on dont feel guilty as actually everything can be rubbish but times will get better. Forget the Tramadol a bugger on your liver

Ich dont be too hard on urself. Life can be hard put it down to experience. You will learn to live again in a different way

I know what you are saying ,however for me its not how I want to feel, I feel so ashamed of my actions.I dont want this alternative life I just want to be able to sleep with my girl

I know.it is so so hardcwhen u have loved so much.all you can do is have faith time will change ur feelings because of this…we have all done thi gs we r not proud of…my partner dropped dead in another womans house i gave ket go of the anger i felt.notjing will change my love i had for him.

I know but it is what it is. Do not feel guilty it is hard for us all sometime a bit of comfort maybe the answer We have been there stay of the tramadol and it will get better as it does . It never goes away but we leant to cope with it.

Hello @Tony123 ,

I’m sorry to hear about your wife’s passing and your current situation. I’m hearing how painful this is all feeling and I want you to know that you’re not alone. There’s always someone out there to help you through this. We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts during their grief journey. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:


If you do feel these suicidal thoughts or feelings get too much, you can reach out to one of the following organisations who are always just a call or text away anytime you would like someone to talk to:

  • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.
  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text SHOUT to 85258 and talk to them about anything.
  • You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline here.
  • If you’re worried you’re going to hurt yourself, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E.

If you’re interested in counselling, we offer free sessions at Sue Ryder. You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area. We have also recently launched a Grief Guide Service, which provides articles and interactive tools to help you cope with grief. If you’re interested in understanding more about grief and how you can manage it, please visit griefguide.sueryder.org

You deserve this support, keep reaching out.

Take care,


It’s very human to make mistakes. I hope you can forgive yourself. The feelings we go through, it’s so complex and sometimes our actions don’t even seem our own. Please be kind to yourself