I feel robbed of the rest of my life. Its be 2 months since my husband died suddenly. He was my best friend,soul mate and lover. How can i find happiness ever again. I feel like i just want to die too as half of me has died anyway. I now feel numb. What is the point.
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Big hugs to you. Just try to keep going one day at a time. It is so very hard. But everyone here understands and will be here for you. We all feel your pain and are all on the same journey.
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I ask myself what my wife would have wanted. I think I know she would have wanted me to smile, open my eyes, love and go on.
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Hello Thomps
I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. It sounds as though things are very tough and you are finding the grief overwhelming right now.
It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to share how you’re feeling with us. It is very normal for people who are grieving to feel a bit lost and not know where to start.
We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving, and it is often about wanting the person who has died back or life to go back to how we know it. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:
https://griefguide.sueryder.org/support/suicide
There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.
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If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.
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You can call 111 and choose the mental health option to speak to a trained mental health professional (England, Scotland and Wales only)
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Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.
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Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text SHOUT to 85258 and talk to them about anything.
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You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline.
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Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: sueryder.org/counselling.
You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.
Please keep reaching out, and take good care, Naoise
Thankyou all for your kind words. It helps alot to be able to reach out to people who understand. I’m trying so hard to carry on but it’s exhausting. I just want to be with my husband and nothing or no one can help me I’m nothing without him.
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I don’t understand how and what you are going through, I lost my beloved husband on 23rd November 2024 to cancer. He had just turned 50 in June. I only had 4 weeks with him from the diagnosis
I never thought I would lose my big strong man who was never sick, apart from the occasional cold now and again.
I never expected to be a widow at 51.
After 22 years its just me and not us. I died with him that Saturday night and just existing day to day waiting to be with him again.
Im sorry for loss, if you need to talk im here, not good on advice but can listen xxx
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I lost my partner of 21 years. 30 th April
I thought I was holding up but I have just crumbled
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Hi I’m sorry I’ve not been on here for a while ive been struggling. The only way i can describe my grief is it’s like being on the sea. Sometimes its calm and you can get through the day, others its like waves of pure grief crashing on to you and it makes you feel like you’re going to drown. I suppose we just have to ride out the storms. Thank you all for being here for me to spout my dribble. It helps.
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It is so good to see you. I hope you feel able to vent here whenever you want to. It is good to talk about the loved ones we have lost.
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Thank you for your response. I am very sorry for your loss
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I relate as well.
I’ve copied in a post I made on another thread it expressed how I feel and may be what you are find or will do soon.
I am lost too, angry at Cancer and want the life we had started to build together all now blown away. I’m flailing around desperately trying to find a way forward.
Hello.
At last I found a thread of what I ask myself every day.
I relate to everything that has been said here.
I’m 59 my fiancé was 56 when she died of cancer in March 2025, we had just moved into our joint house and looking forward to a great future having rescued each other from our previous lives.
After her death I joined everything to get support to try and found like the rest of you that I am too young and too old to be a widower.
Where are all the widowers and widows 58 to 62? I can only assume still working. Where does that leave me as I am financially okay.
Plans to live and honour her and no one to go with to experience the rest of my hopefully long life.
I tried a holiday on my own didn’t go well. I know it’s early for me but I don’t want to go around with late 60s, 70s and 80s people.
I’m in Way Up only 2 people in whole of Leicestershire. I go to a bereavement hub club thing they are all older though admittedly some are young at heart.
I happened to look up the average age of a widow widower and is 76. That is 16 years from now, what do I do sit around a wait?
Does anyone know of any groups they can help us in the middle?
I am 39. My partner will be or would be 52 on Saturday. I was with him 21 years
I am so sorry for your loss
I hope things gets easier .
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I hope you find comfort.
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