I recently lost my husband suddenly, and finding everyday a struggle. My heart is broken, I feel totally lost and don’t know what to do, or think. I have our 2 dogs to look after, and they are also griefing themselves. How do people manage? I lost my mum 12 years ago and that was hard, but this grief is something else I have never felt pain like this.
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Hello @barlow ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling so openly and honestly. I’m so sorry to hear about the sudden loss of your husband. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Yes it’s a different grief when you lose a partner to losing a parent. It’s so much more intense because they were the ones who we relied on, who helped us through our parents death, who we shared secrets with, who we cried with, who we laughed with and who we loved more than anything.
I don’t know how we manage but we do because we just have to there’s nothing we can do about what’s happened. It’s tough and it’s terribly sad and the tears come from nowhere but that happens because we loved and we were loved deeply.
Today a bad day for me but I’m hopeful tomorrow is a better day.
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Dear Barlow
Mitzi has put it exactly how it is I’ve found these contacts so reassuring in a dark time - knowing that they really understand from the howling and floods of tears to the multitude of little stabs to your heart
We also share our achievements from managing to join a group or volunteer to getting through anniversaries and going on holiday
I hate to admit it but it will never be the same
We Will in some way or other gradually make a different life Baby steps
I forward 2 back but hopefully 2 forward and only 1 back if we’re lucky
Take care