My wife passed away in her sleep 6 weeks ago. She was 80 pounds overweight. I am distraught I didn’t do more to convince her to lose weight. We finally got her on a weight loss drug 2 weeks before she passed. Sadly, it was too late. I just wish I would have done more to prevent this from happening. She was only 64.
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Dear Lonerider,
please don’t blame yourself, I’m sure that you are not responsible for what happened to your beloved wife.
You did join a club that nobody wants to be a member of and you’re facing a long and difficult uphill struggle.
You will be reunited with your darling wife and that reunion will be for all eternity.
In the meantime your beloved wife is looking out for you from up above.
Please take care and stay safe!
Kind regards - Joe
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Hi LoneRider, please don’t blame yourself! My husband never smoked, was fit, was thin, exercised every day, looked after his diet and yet died of a heart attack –suddently and unexpectedly –two and half months ago, he was only 60. Losing our soulmates is already extremely , please don’t blame yourself. As Joe says, you will one day be again with her and then all the pain will be gone. Wishing you a peaceful evening. 
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Hi @lonerider-43
Please don’t blame yourself, my husband died 7 and half months ago. Suddenly unexpected of a heart attack. He was 64 he was never ill and was fit .i am sorry for your loss , look after yourself. Take one day at a time.
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Hi lonerider, my mother was overweight from the first moment I can remember. My father was thin as a stick like all my brothers and sisters. My mother needed a wheelchair because of being so overweight. My father died of a heart attack at 62 and mother out lived him by more than twenty years. Nobody knows what is going to happen. If there is one thing we have learnt here it is how fragile life is.
I hope you can grieve without blaming yourself as your loved one wouldn’t want that for you.
Wishing you all the strength you will need
Tom
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Same with my Mum, never smoked, vegetarian, quit alcohol and meat decades ago, walked everywhere, yet still passed from cancer.
My Dad was the opposite, smoked since he was 10, sedentary, was a whisky drinker, but his passing was not related to his lifestyle.
They both had plenty of fruit everyday as well, the fruit bowl was always piled high!
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Lonerider-43,
my most beloved husband was healthy in July and died in March. The pain is indescribable… My heart aches for all of us here. I’m so sorry! I think that we all have done the best we were able to…
Janka
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Hello lonerider, so sorry for your loss, . My husband passed away 8 weeks ago, I did everything for him since he had been sick for a long time, and when he passed, I still thought I should have had the doctors do more testing when he was in the hospital, always what if. what if. But when our time comes it comes, . May God give you some peace , please stop blaming yourself. May God bless you
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