I lost my grandad October 2018 but to me he was my dad and until he was gone I never realised how much he was my anchor in this world.
I am normally the caretaker caregiver in the family before he passed we had spent 5 years caring for my Nan who has cancer. So when he was taken from us so quickly I couldn’t process it and I quickly found that I had no one to run to anymore because everyone runs to me. It has been like I have built a fortress around my emotions to ensure that everyone else does ok.
It’s now coming up to the first year of him passing and only now do I feel that I am starting to process him being gone. Even though after the funeral I still haven’t been able to go to his grave side.
I can’t seem to share in everyone’s grief because I can’t seem to let it out in front of the rest of the family. I am trying to do as he asked and take care of everyone but I feel like I have failed him also in the fact that I can’t seem to accept his passing and let him go.