My wife of 24 years died unexpectedly back on the 15th September 2025.
She suffered for many years with chronic pancreatitis.
In 2022, we sold up everything, gave up my job and moved from Surrey all the way to the Northumberland coast to start a new life.
Today, the 9th Jan, we placed her ashes in her final resting place in a memorial wall. My 2 sons have just left to go back to their own families, over 300 miles away. So now, it’s just me and my dog. It all became to real that she is finally gone, no longer in on the dressing table surrounded by flowers, where I would talk to her all the time. It’s not the same talking to her picture. I have friends, but it’s not the same. But reading some of the messages on this forum does help a bit. Thanks for being here.
It’s such a cruel world but we have to dust ourselves off and carry on for our loved ones that have passed. It’s up to us to keep their memory alive with stories and doing things like going out which I believe they would want. I truly believe they wouldn’t want us to give up.
So sorry for the loss of your lovely wife Terry, we are all here to help you. All of us know your pain and grief. It’s very tough trying to navigate through this horrible road we’re on, that none of us want to be on. The Northumberland coast is so beautiful, it was a favourite place for me and my Ray. I lost him 12 weeks ago today to pancreatic cancer. He was the love of my life. Being a proud Scouser, he really connected with the North East and we loved our holidays there. Take good care of yourself x and your dog. Animals are amazing and great company in times of trouble
Yes very beautiful where you live but lonely when you are left afterwards. Gap where her ashes were bare now she has been placed in her final place. I feel.lonely when I am left after the family have visited. I did look after my sona’s dog when he was away. But it was challenging. But she wasn’t trained. I spent ages in the garden throwing things for her to catch. I really prefer labs. She also pulled me over admittedly on grass but ran off after a car and I was ages trying to get her back.
So sorry it’s a sad time and so many people are going through the same thing l didn’t realise untill it happened to me you can be in a room full of people and still be on your own take care stay warm
Yes I used to talk to my late husband’s picture. I have this big lifesize photo on the computer. I look at it often. I still send texts pretending it is to him. It helps. One day I am going to do a painting of him from that screen. Have done drawings.Used to drawer him when he was asleep. I did a loads of drawings of him from my stash of photos. I have always remembered things my loved ones used to say. Two of my best friends fro. school have died. I contacted both their husbands to chat. One is married again. Other sent me a big parcel with memorabilia which I treasure. He had long chat. I ought to reply. I often do and find I haven’t posted it.
That’s it nice to have a talent like that and you can paint you husband l have a large photo of my husband with my oldest daughter she had it for his 70th birthday
That sounds a great memory to have a large photo of a very happy occasion.i watch landscape and portrait artist of the year on tv and video it. Can do a grid to get drawing accurate but I have been at it for years. Used to doodle at school when teacher used to drone on. Drawer her. Stop myself falling asleep. Never stopped habit. Became my friend. Little kids come and chat. Fascinated. Not so keen on unasked for advice as if they have a right to do so. After all do not peer at someone’s book.. But met a widower year’s ago on holiday alone. He liked to sit on benches and found it company.
It’s so hard. I lost my wife 47 weeks ago today. We were together 60 years, nearly 58 of them married. Saturdays are not that good for me and having a bad one today, but as others have said, we have to carry on as best as we can.
Jackie’s ashes are interred in the Welsh church where we first got together and married. I am moving back there in the next few weeks, so can at least live out my remaining days closer to her.
Large pics of a beloved can help. I have a few around the house including this honeymoon pic a couple of days after we got married in 67
That is a lovely photo of your late wife. There was✨a photo of my late husband someone posted on Facebook I had never seen of when he was a little boy looking just like my grandson
